[sourpuss]

God! She sounds like torture! Bless your heart for putting up with it.

I think first I would change my phone number, there's no reason that she needs to have your #. If your boyfriend's family needs to get a hold of you for something they can call his phone.

Like others have said, don't engage her. Talk to her only when you have to and don't argue and get into it with her, that's what she's after in the first place.

This woman is obviously mentally unstable. This goes beyond the over protective jealous mother, however she doesn't sound like she's anywhere near admitting she has a problem. The best you can hope for is to avoid her at all costs. Yes, she'll be upset when you change your number but too bad, you need your phone for emergencies not for her to abuse.

[JubesInquest]

God! She sounds like torture! Bless your heart for putting up with it.

I think first I would change my phone number, there's no reason that she needs to have your #. If your boyfriend's family needs to get a hold of you for something they can call his phone.

Like others have said, don't engage her. Talk to her only when you have to and don't argue and get into it with her, that's what she's after in the first place.

This woman is obviously mentally unstable. This goes beyond the over protective jealous mother, however she doesn't sound like she's anywhere near admitting she has a problem. The best you can hope for is to avoid her at all costs. Yes, she'll be upset when you change your number but too bad, you need your phone for emergencies not for her to abuse.

Mentally unstable... I agree!!
She is far too "needy," "naggy" and "clingy"!!!! Does anyone wonder why she's divorced?

Sour said to change your number... RIGHT! Don't answer her calls, limit your contact with her, and by all means, DO NOT ANSWER ANY PHONE CALLS WHILE YOU'RE IN CLASS!!!
That's just sick!

She know's you're in school, so why call? She acts like she's obsessed with nagging you until you finally leave her son alone.

[BusyGirl16]

I understand what you all are saying. I agree that she is definently mentally unstable. Thankfully she hasnt called in a few days! She left a crappy voicemail saying she doesnt understand why I dont answer my phone when she calls me and why Bryant can answer his dads phone calls but not hers.....but I am sure this isnt the end of it! Me and Bryant are planning a family "get-together" during our town's festival type thing. Should we invite her to be nice or should we exclude her until she quits acting the way she does? I dont want to be mean and not invite her but I also dont want her to come there with an attitude either and ruin time with our familes.....I haven't ever delt with anyone like this before and I dont know how I should handle things like this... Bryant wants to move far away, which would be good but I am really close with my family and I dont think I could do something drastic like that. I guess I am going to have to deal with it and come here to this wonderful website for advice! I really love this website and I dont know what I would do without it! Thank you all sooo very much!!!

[JubesInquest]

I understand what you all are saying. I agree that she is definently mentally unstable. Thankfully she hasnt called in a few days! She left a crappy voicemail saying she doesnt understand why I dont answer my phone when she calls me and why Bryant can answer his dads phone calls but not hers.....but I am sure this isnt the end of it! Me and Bryant are planning a family "get-together" during our town's festival type thing. Should we invite her to be nice or should we exclude her until she quits acting the way she does? I dont want to be mean and not invite her but I also dont want her to come there with an attitude either and ruin time with our familes.....I haven't ever delt with anyone like this before and I dont know how I should handle things like this... Bryant wants to move far away, which would be good but I am really close with my family and I dont think I could do something drastic like that. I guess I am going to have to deal with it and come here to this wonderful website for advice! I really love this website and I dont know what I would do without it! Thank you all sooo very much!!!

Busy,
As you can see, everyone is happy to have you here!

Now about the family "get-together" during your town's "festival-type thing"....

Now whether you invite your b/f's mother or not, as long as she gets wind of you 2 having a gathering at such a public event as this, I guarantee she will be there ---and she will be madder than a wet hen!
Given what you've told us of her personality, she will take the opportunity to show off on you & Bryan.

She will tell all the world how horribly you have treated her; how you haven't answered her phone calls; she will say she only calls you because she CARES ABOUT YOU and you're not respecting her, you're not giving her the same consideration she gives you; she treats you sooooo well and you haven't done the same in return; and you even have her son not being bothered with her!!!!

She definitely won't mention the ugly things she's said about you and/or left on your phone message .....

If you do invite her, she'll be prone to do this; if you don't, 9 times out of 10, she'll definitely do this!

The point is, Busygirl, she will show up anyway it goes. She sounds like she'll do it because she loves attention and she loves looking like she's the "good person" being ill-treated by her son's girlfriend.

I wish you all the best on this family get-together.

[BusyGirl16]

I guess I am in a pickle! I have one more week....and I am going to be holding my breath the whole time! I think I am going to have a talk with my b/f to see what he wants to do..... thanks so much!!

[mr.mansview]

i believe you should not invite your b/f mother..if she does not show up and gets wind of it later there will be h*ll to pay..this is where you NEED to have your b/f to BACK YOU UP and tell her she was not invited because of the way she has been treating you ..if you invite her she will probably ruin your party, but at least you will have an enjoyable time without her there..but as "jubes" said she will probably find out and show up anyway..good luck "busygirl"..

[BusyGirl16]

No Party Invite For Her!

Well, everyone we have made up our minds and we are not inviting her to the party. We had a talk and I told my b/f that I know this is his mother we are talking about and I dont mean to exclude her from things but she has to realize that she cant act this way to us! He said he has no problem with the way I am handling things. She has already started saying that we are treating her badly and she justs wants the best for her son.... which obviously isnt me... but anyways everyone that is going to be at the party knows how she is and will know that what she is saying is lies... so I am not too woried... I just dont like conflict and I dont have any good comebacks....when she says stuff to me i just sit there and take it....
1. Because I don't want to have a huge fight
2. Because I really don't know what to say at the time

Afterwards I can come up with things I should've said but when she is saying stuff to me I can't really think of anything else but "why would someone say something sooo mean to me?" Thankfully my mom is going to be there and won't let her say something too mean... if she does happen to show up.... My b/f just tells her to shut-up my mom would actually set her straight. My mom has never been around when his mom said stuff to me... one night when he still lived at home, my mom came to pick me up and right when I got in the car I started crying because of the stuff that was said. She almost turned the car around to go say something but for some reason I stopped her and nothing has ever been said... maybe this weekend will be a blessing and she will finally get set straight... or maybe it will make things worse...The other night I was soo upset I told my b/f I just wanted to runaway and never have to deal with her again... I think that finally made him realize how she is making me feel. Only 5 more days until the party...... Thank you all sooo much for helping me in the horrible situation! Ill keep you all posted!!!

[JubesInquest]

Put On Your Dancin' Shoes!

Well, you sure are a Busygirl!

Have a great time at your party and dance, dance, DANCE!

You know, you don't have to worry about making a snappy comeback after your b/fs mom says something nasty to you.
A lot of times, it's best not to say a word; especially when it's obvious she's trying to show-off in front of everyone. You can just turn on ya heel and walk away, making her look small and foolish (if that's possible).

Anyway, enjoy your party and if the Hurricane shows up, declare it a disaster area (wherever she is) and keep on having a good time! I'd act like she's not even there.
She just wants to ruin it anyway, so make sure you have fun .... right up in her face!

[BusyGirl16]

No Show!

Thankfully she did not show up this weekend at all! She called Bryant to make sure he had food to eat.... like I am not able to buy food... but anyways when he said yes and told her that we were having people over and he had to get off the phone, that was the last we heard of her! She didnt call or show up the rest of our weekend! I was really grateful I didnt have to deal with her!

I am sure that I will need help with her again before too long, but until then I would like to thank you very much for helping me handle her crazy ways!

THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS!!!!

[mr.mansview]

glad things worked out for you this past weekend..good luck in the future..