[One Who Wonders]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/12 years, he has never been married, is in his late 40's. I have been married, divorced for 6 years, have a child who he gets along really well with. In May, after a big party in his honor, I saw a diamond ring on the floor of his room, as if he had been planning on giving it to me that night you know. Well, it is morning when I see it. I pretend I don't notice and he never says a word, we go out to eat with his family that morning and I never let on that I saw it. These past few months have been devastating for me. Why doesn't he want me? We still go out and he doesn't act any different. A few months ago I saw a letter he wrote to an old girlfriend from 20 years ago. He was put back in touch with her in a weird way at afunction near my house. I should not have read the letter, I know, but something about it made me do it. All this time I am wondering what I should do about the ring situation but I am so weak and spineless that I never bring it up. Mon night we are out and he pulls out this person's business card and stares at it, just for no reason. I see this and it hits me hard. He can tell I am bothered by something. I leave early and say I can't stay. My child is with me and I am keeping my composure trying not to cry. Next morning I call to tell him why I was so upset and he is mad about me reading his personal items. I have never felt he was unfaithful and still don't. I agree it was wrong. I haven't spoken to him since. He has a big event Fri-Sun he is planning so I know he is busy and prob still mad at me. I'm dying inside. I wrote an e-mail detailing how I feel, about the ring etc... but I haven't sent it. I am prepared to accept the fact that if I bring up the ring etc.. that I may not get an answer I like. But do I send the e-mail or wait to see if he contacts me?

[kaylar]

Reading a post I see a relationship that is over,
and a coward who doesn't have the balls to tell you.

The ring was a give away. The fact you pretended
not to see it, when clearly it was put there for you
to see it.

The letter was also a give away as was the business
card.

There is no sense in sending the email. Go on as if
nothing happened, and get ready for the end of this
relationship.

In fact, right now you should be doing all those acts
necessary to make his removal from your life as stress
free as it can be.

[JubesInquest]

Reading a post I see a relationship that is over,
and a coward who doesn't have the balls to tell you.

The ring was a give away. The fact you pretended
not to see it, when clearly it was put there for you
to see it.

The letter was also a give away as was the business
card.

There is no sense in sending the email. Go on as if
nothing happened, and get ready for the end of this
relationship.

In fact, right now you should be doing all those acts
necessary to make his removal from your life as stress
free as it can be.

I agree.

It's over.
A diamond ring is NOT something you leave laying all over the floor. That is ridiculous.

So he wrote a letter to an ex and left it around to be seen? Why?
If you don't want somebody to know or see something, you put it in a place where only YOU know about it and where only YOU can get to it.

He's all mad and upset about you reading his letter-- but why leave it out in the first place?

Just get your child and let this man go on about his life... and you go on about yours.