[knowledge]

Ok, so basically im just going to give a little background on my relationship so that i can get a little more accurate advice. My boyfriend and i are both 19, in college, we've been together for 10 months. Its been a tough relationship...we've dealt with so much drama and fighting, but as far as i know, he's never cheated or anything. He's a good guy, he's not selfish, he always makes sure that i have what i need, but he has been disrespectful to me when he gets angry or while we're arguing. Im older than him, he just turned 19 and i'll be 20 soon, and I am SO much more mature than him...its almost annoying. We started sex very early on in the relationship, we didnt wait at all. There was one time where he claimed he loved me so much, but broke up with me because he didnt feel like he was getting sex enough. He's broken up with me over this many times...but it wouldnt be a break up where we stopped dating and he'd start talking to other girls, it would just be during an argument or something..but we would always get back together within HOURS. Anyways...for one, it began that i wasnt even turned on by him, especially with the immaturity and disrespect and let me not forget to mention the INSECURITY, and that was one reason i didnt really care for sex with him (this was still within the first 4-5 months). Now, every time he comes over, he feel like thats an automatic thing we're suppose to do. He can't lay in the bed without trying to slide my clothes off or put his hands in places, and i have to constantly fight him off and its annoying. We dont go out, all we do is argue, he gets disrespectful, then expects to 'make up'. To me, it doesnt work that way. Yea making up with sex is cool sometimes, but when the arguing and disrespect gets out of hand, what makes him think he has a right to my body just because he's my boyfriend? Now, i've been thinking a lot about it, and i almost NEVER want to have sex, and when we do, im only doing it for him. I dont like the way i feel, just giving someone my body just because. Do i just not need to be in a relationship?

[rcoreyus]

Why are you still in this relationship? It doesn't seem to be making you happy. Its OK if he wants a relationship that is all about sex, but he needs to find a partner who feels the same way.

[DGuy]

From a guys prospective:

He is a 19 year old college student. Many guys go to college with the expectation that college is all about sex. A healthy relationship needs sex but cannot be nothing but sex. It looks like this guy is looking more for a playmate than a girlfriend and thats ok, but if its not what you are looking for then I think its time to go your seperate ways.

Guys in their teens / early 20's are insecure, and almost all men have moments of immaturity but the good ones know when its time to put the big boy hat on and act like a man. If you are finding that guys in your age group are too immature and insecure and you are looking for a meaningful relationship look to socialize in older crowds, and talk to guys before you get too involved. You would be suprised what a couple of years can do to change a guys mental state.

[a_dub]

You should just play the Taylor Swift song "We are never getting back together" next time he breaks up with you.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Man, a women needs to be respected not treated as a sex object off course it will turn her off

I don't know here is my thoughts. When you have sex pretty much straight away it's lust and you don't get to know the person at all... You don't get to court the person make him wait, her want you know? And, you don't get to know their little things they like like, you don't date at all , it's all about sex.

So... My thoughts are that is what it is to him, he thinks he is in a relationship and he is but neither know each other at all, " it started with a kiss "

You don't break off over not getting enough sex at 19.

You don't say I love you to gain her back so no other GUY has sex with her

And, a woman is 4 years older than a male mentally, apparently so hense why you feel more of an Adult.

This started wrong, it's wrong and you are in the wrong relationship and if you want one, hold out a bit, because it's all in the chase where love is concerned.

I should know I'm alot older than you

[Guest]

This isn't a relationship...it's one person's use/abuse (his) of another (you).

Despite what you said at the beginning, none of it was true in the end.

Dump this guy once and for all, learn from your mistakes of this 'relationship' before dating again and never settle for less than you deserve.

Your body is a temple...treat it accordingly.