[als2vu]

Any thoughtful advice would be helpful. What do you all think of long distance relationships? Have they worked for you? My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. It has been three months since he moved away to go to chiropractic school, which is four hours away. We see each other every two weeks, sometimes more. We talk every day. I am totally supportive of his decision to move and go to school, its been his dream. We have really made an effort to communicate thus far. I know in my heart that he would never cheat. I actually think (and this is a big deal for me to say) that he has potential to be "the one." Its just I think I am getting too insecure sometimes. My mind wonders about what girls he meets and how they could be better than me. I would never know if he did cheat and I have no reason to not trust him. I know he is serious about me. He will be in school there for 3 years. I just don't want to get my heart broken.
So: I have obviously thought about moving down there (SC). He has never even hinted that if I don't move then we would break up. He is very supportive of what I want. But I can tell he wants me there. And I miss him terribly! He is the first sane person that I have had a healthy relationship with. We haven't even had a real fight yet! There are other complications with money and me getting a job down there. I just don't want to pick up and move my life if there is the possibility of it not working out. Any advice would be great

[Little]

I have been in long-distance relationships. They can work, but only if you make them work. Only if you're strong.
I wouldn't consider seeing my man every 2 weeks "long-distance," but that's because I am dating a guy in the Army. After he goes to post at the end of the month, I won't see him again until Christmas-time ... if he gets leave, maybe. And after that, who knows? He's going to be in training over the summer for 5 months where he'll not even have enough time to write me a letter.
Because I love him, I am willing to stick it out. We've been dating for 4 months, and he treats me just like a little princess. I respect him as a king. Neither have I been in a relationship quite like this, healthy and happy, so I am going to be strong and stick it out for him.
Are you in school? Don't move for him (yet, anyways) if you are. In case you live in TN, definitely don't give up your lottery scholarship! Talk to him about moving before you ever do. Don't depend on him in the move, except perhaps if you have large furniture and need someone to help. Things like that are fine; what I mean is, don't expect to go live with him. Find your own place, your own job, and make sure they're just as good as the ones you have now. Take as long as you need to move; don't decide to do it then feel like you have to do it that month ... or even that year! Just go in the direction you want.
Start out by talking to him. It sounds to me like you have a healthy relationship that could prosper. The biggest question in long-distance relationships is "is it worth it?" and only you can answer that.

[sourpuss]

It sounds to me like things are working so far. Seeing each other a couple times a week helps. If you truly trust him, then just try to remind yourself of that if you are feeling insecure about it all. The insecurity and jealousy is usually why LD relationships end up not working. Just try to keep a clear head and appreciate what you have.

If you think there is a big future between you two then the time waiting will fly by. I'm assuming you get to see him more on school breaks and what not. And who knows, maybe in another year you'll be able to move closer.

[JubesInquest]

What's Wrong?

I don't see what the problem is here...

If it's not broke, don't fix it! You don't have any proof or reason NOT to trust your b/f, so don't be so insecure. You 2 are together, right? So keep things going as they have, and take everything step-by-step.

[als2vu]

You all are soo great and soo true. I can see how I could be making a problem out of nothing. Its hard trying to stay out of your own way sometimes. And trying not to let past relationship issues affect me now. My boyfriend, he is absolutely amazing. This is the first healthy relationship I've had and I definately want to stick it out while he is in school. I'm not in school, but I work here in KY, sorry didn't put that in there. We love being together and are very honest. I just hope I don't mess it up.
Thanks for all your guys comments

[blueyed21]

I know how you feel. My boyfriend of 2 years got a job offer to move out to New Mexico and I'll still be in Georgia. He's going to be leaving soon and I won't be able to see him for about 2 months. Yea it doesn't seem like a long time but after you live with someone for awhile and spend everyday with them, it's going to be hard to be without him. I would be moving with him now but I have to wait to move out there to make sure he's going to like it and all and I have to let my work know I'll be leaving. So it's going to be a big change but it'll be worth it and this is a once in a lifetime oppourtunity! Everything will be just fine!

[laney]

it sounds like things are working out.i wouldnt worry about it.insecurity can really hurt a reltionship.just a tip to help you out not that you are.but it does take a lot of trust and strength.you candt what if things either.sometimes it sucks but if your in love its totally woth it.best of luck

[emilyrose]

Well, i tried a long disstance relationship. I have been together with my boyfriend for about 1 year and 4 months when i found out that i was moving to america and i was in england. Obviously we were both upset and to make it worse it was on my 16th birthday that i was moving. We decided to stay together. we truely loved eachother theres no denying that. well we kept in contacted over the internet and the phone but gradually i could tell that things arent the same. about 4 weeks possibly less after i moved we agreed to break up, i really didnt want to because i love him and still now i do. but the other day he told that he didnt have feelings for me anymore becuase we are so far away from eachother i ws completely deverstated. But to be honest you have to think of it wisely if your young like me that he's one of many and eventhough you loved him you knew deep down that it wasnt going to last long. Im going back to england in june next year and i wish it would all be the same but it wont. everyone keeps saying to me oh dont owrry you'll find another boyfriend in america but i dont want to i love him still....life is soo difffercult. I miss him terribly. luckily we have agreed to stay friends and always talk to eachother whenever, also when i go back to the UK its my graduation ball of my old school and we have promised eachother that we will go together i dont know whats going to happen about that though...
I knwo this isnt much help but i wanted to tell my story...if anyone has a good way of getting over someone you love and how to make convasation with a boy after breaking up please reply. i could do with some advice. i would love to hear any of your similar stories, maybe it will help.

[Little]

I read this site written by a guy complaining about things ...
"Hint: friends don't despise each other. Friends don't feel the urge to have a stiff drink after bumping into each other on the street. Friends don't avoid eye contact at parties."
I agree with this statement; I'm not sure that ex-lovers can really be friends. I have had to cut off all but the most civil of relations with most of my exes, as horrible as that can be.
Good luck to you

[Madlen]

Long distance do not work. Been there a few times and every time end up with a disaster... Both of you will sooner or later start feeling lonely, unsure where and what your b/f or g/f is doing... Then missed calls, unanswered text messages in the middle of the night will start driving you insane bit by bit...
In any situation do what is best for you, because this is what he would do. So go and visit him, stay for a week, see how it goes if you get second thoughts - get out and start fresh. Plus if you have a lot to loose where you are now, dont! Nobody needs sacrifices and in the end when you tell him: 'but I have sacrificed this or that for you and left everything behind to be with you...' He will say: 'It was your choice! I have not asked you!'
Think and think again!