[kareenakapoor47]

causes of our break up:

i started loving him.
i was too fast in everything
i cried and tensed when he didnt reply
i was worried a lot coz he didnt initiate any chat or phone call
i expected him to love me a lot

he was always afraid of doing wrong to his wife and daughter and was asking me to solve
his problem. but i never took this seriously. i only wanted an affair with him as quckly
as possible.i never made him relaxed. he tried to call me two or three times but i could not talk to him properly. he tried to be friend with me but i couldnt. neighther he nor me could talk to each other friendly. i know he loved me once. but after sometime he controlled himself. that was betraying me. i became tensed so much of rejection. i dont love my body so i thought he also hate me for that. we have never talked in a friendly manner on phone. i always tried to chat with him. never tried to talked to him face to face or on phone. still i dont want to his just friend. i only want an affair with him. i am never friendly to anybody. i could not understand the meaning of friendship.

his wife has a problem mentally
i never talked to him friendly and asked about his problem. never
he was feeling guilty what he has done and i was always reminding him that
i know it was totally my fault for this breakup
i cant handle anything properly in practical life i only think about formulas for getting anything i want to get quickly. i have never achieved anything good. i never try hard to get anything good. i hate life . i hate people. i feel that all are different to me. all are enjoying their life except me. i cant enjoy my life without love. i want love from a person who i love. i want his love back. how i dont know. i dont believe that i can get his love back quickly. i want his love back quickly.

Why everybody says we cant get lost love back. Nothing is impossible and what we mostly need cannot be impossible if it is then world is not worth living.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

karen

We all want to be loved and to give love. But the first person you love "has" to be yourself.

There is no point aiming at a married man, they will usually and nearly always remain married.

Do you sit at home alot. On the computer and meet these men via a computer?

Finding your passions in life great goals and you are right nothing is impossible but you must be on the right path for that dream...

Nothing is worth dying over either...

Why not tell us more about yourself.

[kareenakapoor47]

no i dont find friends on net. he is my immediate boss. we could not talk in office other than about work. how can i start a good relationship again. i will not repeat the previous mistakes.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I guess, we have to understand that lust is a powerful thing.

I think respecting ourselves helps us ward away such temptation if it's one sided and I think, that is how you feel, it was one sided. Perhaps he started the flirting and it was un-fair as he is married.

I always tell people, look in the mirror and realise who you are.

We are not in the caveman days, we can now make our own decisions and if we understand that, then we can walk away.

What do you like about yourself? What do you want out of life I know at the moment nothing but let's go backwards at some point there was something.

[kareenakapoor47]

i want this man back in my life. may be we will be just friends but i want him in any manner. and i will get him. i will tell you when i will get him in my life.

[KMonte85]

I think it would do you well to leave him alone. You've said you came on too strong, and even when things were good you couldn't ever really be friends. What makes you think that anything is going to improve?? You pushing him, begging and pleading him, and generally acting desperate is not going to make him fall madly in love with you.

Furthermore, this man is married with (I assume) a young daughter. Although I believe everyone deserves to be loved, you need to look at the source. This man can't love you fully - not when he's got a family at home to concern himself with. You'll never find what you seek with him.

[BabyGirl]

I must ask,
What country are you from ?
This may make a difference in advise from some of the people here .

As to most of us, our Immediate boss, means our Supervisor. And a person that we usually do not have " Love for, at least not Romantic Love " but we can be " Friends with and Respect them ".

So ..
Are you saying you had a Sexual Encounter with your Boss and he now feels Bad or Guilty about it ?
and he has no wish to have a continued affair with you and does not even want to be " Friends " because he may be tempted to do it again or you may be expecting him to be " Sexual " only with your Performance .

But somehow you have felt that having sex with him made you " Love him " ?
And now you want that " Love/ Lust " to happen again ?

What I am confused at is why you would want to have a man in your life, that is "Not Free to Love another" meaning Married,one that has a Wife and Child and yes may have strayed Sexually with you .
But it seems he has not Strayed Emotionally with you .

However this Statement does Concern me and I am sure others here

i want this man back in my life. may be we will be just friends but i want him in any manner. and i will get him. i will tell you when i will get him in my life.

This one screams STALKING !!
And trying to Wrong a Wrong made by His Choice to Not Wrong with you again !

And this one also greatly concerns me .. It says to me
" Lost,No self Esteem or a Great Love Story book/ Movie "

i cant handle anything properly in practical life i only think about formulas for getting anything i want to get quickly. i have never achieved anything good. i never try hard to get anything good. i hate life . i hate people. i feel that all are different to me. all are enjoying their life except me. i cant enjoy my life without love. i want love from a person who i love. i want his love back. how i dont know. i dont believe that i can get his love back quickly. i want his love back quickly.

This has so much " I " in it, it shows that you have almost Zero Confidence,that you are Lacking in Patience, that you expect that anything you want, you must only want it to be Given to you. Only Dream it or feel you Deserve it,to be as you wish .

Some of your words says that you feel you are Worthless and are unwilling to change anything about yourself unless you get " him ".

I am not sure if you are a troll for answers or not . And you may just live in a different Country or Belief system.
But
He is Not YOURS, You are Worth Getting your Own Person to Love you . Love and respect Yourself First ..

[kareenakapoor47]

No we dont had sexual encounter. we didnt event went outside office. he feels guilty for chatting with me some romantically. and in office we can talk only officially in front of others. we didnt meet alone till now.

[KMonte85]

So you have not had sex, you have not talked to him much outside of the office or met alone, and while in the office it was mostly professional except for a few romantic chats?

Am I understanding this correctly, kareen? I just want to make sure before I respond further...

[Euphoric]

It sounds like this man isn't looking to have an affair. It sounds to me like he realized that he may have exercised poor judgement by having an inappropriate conversation with you (by getting friendlier than he should have as a boss). However, he has taken a step back and is trying to keep things professional. You can't make him fall in love with you. If you care about this person, then you should respect his marriage and move on.