[Brad12121]

Me and this woman have been dating off and on for about a year and a half.

-she use to flirt in front of me with our manager
-co workers
-send flirty texts to co workers/people
-found out once she was two timing me and I stopped talking to her for a month and a half til she wanted me back

Anyways,

-She says that by asking where she is going , and with who? Is to much info and it means I don't trust her.

-Also last night she didn't text me or call me for the usual goodnight, I love you. Her excuse was that she left her phone at home and it was shut off

-She told me she went to a hotel with a guy friend ( from high school ) that I have never heard her talk about. She said they drank and talked and stayed up late but nothing happened and he slept on the floor. But by me asking I'm not trusting her.

What would you think of this? Acceptable or not ?

[time2discover]

With so little information it's hard to tell. She does not sound as commited as
you are though.
If I'm in a relationship with a possible futur, to me, this is not acceptable.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think firstly if you read your first paragraph " dating on and off for a year and a half".... you are confirming that this is not actually an exclusive relationship and I believe she is clearly showing you it is not as well by also just being in the dating phase.

Exclusivity - two people that really want to be together, not with anyone else, in a relationship...

Non - exclusivity - two people dating, drifting and doing what they want just being and enjoying a portion of each other but not totality.

If this was your "girlfriend" and she had gone to a hotel to meet up and drink with any guy and he slept on her floor... I'd personally let her know she is not for me (as a man).. There is a fine line and that was "him sleeping in the same place as her" a guy she knew along time ago. It's called "respect" for your partner, you send him home.

I think you have to question where this "relationship" is going, is it going to go somewhere, more importantly is she the woman you have dreamt about all your life, the woman who loves you un-conditionally, who you laugh with, bond with and feel safe with?

If not, treat it as "dating" still. And, allow that person to come into your life.

[Pollon]

If you were in an exclusive relationship, this would be disrespectful and unacceptable. However, it doesn't sound as if she considers herself to be in an exclusive relationship with you. As your story indicates, she likes male attention and is not picky about who she gets it from.

However, she is not interested in male attention that makes demands on her like, "Where are your going and who are you going with?"

If you want someone to be with you exclusively, she doesn't sound like the one.

[Trisha23]

Looks like this girl is acting as if she has a boyfriend.