[Jade girl]

I'm 29 so old enough to know better but always get played used and dumped but get stuck and caught up in their lies etc i know i let them walk over me I'm now seeking counseling for why as may be some unresolved issues so I can be stronger enough to walk away I'm very hurt I was left to deal with my recovery alone all I wanted was my friend who was apart of this to hug and talk through it I now have concerns he may have wanted the baby but was scared to amitted it and left me to deal with the pain and guilt thanks the web sites are helping move on

[BabyGirl]

I'm 29 was married and divorced at 21 , 2nd relationship 3 years also ended in abortion at 24 my family and bf talked me into this and now 5 years later with trent 8 months ends in abortion

You will get through this , as you did your first abortion...

Something to think about..

While you are healing and this may take years to accept the choices you made as for the best, very hard choices. Can you promise yourself that you will use protection from now on ? That Preventing a pregnancy ( until ready to be a Mother ) is so much easier than Aborting ?

In your next relationship, don't have Sex or at least unprotected sex, until you know him well enough that he will stand by you, should you get pregnant . In your next relationship, have that talk with him. What if I get Pregnant, how will you feel , how will we deal with it, will you want the Child, Will we raise it together ? This does not mean ask him if you get pregnant will he marry you , but you will get an answer as to whether he is the type of man to stand up and take responsibility, should a Pregnancy arise .

I'm sure, well it sounds like it, that someday you do want a child ? It's time you get Picky as to who you have Sex with. It's time you , when it's time , that you start protecting yourself from Pregnancy , until you have found the man that wants to share your life and raise a child with you .

Abortion is not Birth Control, it's a choice you make, just as demanding him using a Condom or no Sex, just as using Spermicide or Birth Control pill . They are all choices that you should now think seriously about, before engaging in Sex with any man, from now on .

We understand your pain , your loneliness, your desire to be loved and supported, to find that someone to share life with and maybe raise a family . But it's time you Love and Respect yourself enough to make better choices in Men , have your Goals recognized, Be firm on what kind of man you want, be honest with him and tell him what you feel and ask how he feels about having children .

If he says no kids,or we will take care of it ( abort it ) then , if you want kids , he's not the Man for you . From now on, only you can decide if you will ever have to go through another Abortion again. Only you can decide if you have Unprotected Sex , ever again . Only You can decide if you will be Used and Abandoned, Ever Again !!!

Time to put you first, so you can and will be a Happy and Healthy Mother , when the time does come to have a Child.

[Guest]

hi Jade girl
consider me ur brother

FIRST OF ALL - its not ur fault, please understand

u were abanded by ur parents, then by ur boyfriends,

PLEASE DONT GET INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP FOR A WHILE ( may be months or a year )

relationships are headaches,

get urself involved in some good activities ( music, drawing, sports, etc etc) reconstruct urself

then make ur mind strong,

u shud be able to judge people by seeing them, until then dont get into any relationship

[Jade girl]

Thanks brother Yeah def not jumping into any relationship or casual sex this has destroyed me I feel alone it hurts that trent has gone on with his life with no care about the damage his has done i have a feeling he will come try come back like nothing happened just got to be strong and not give in I feel im stuck dealing with the stress and trying to look after myself I'm back to work tomorrow so hopefully get a sence of normal life again

[Guest]

hi JG (jade girl)
im really happy u ve accepted certain things ( 10 yrs back same thing happened to my cousin whom i cared so much but she continued to do what she wanted, not listening to me coz she had anxiety, got into lot of trouble REAL TROUBLE, i risked my life n saved her when she was about to be murdered, and when she realised, he threatened me that i would be murdered for her...... things went on like that for months then underworld settlement.. then relived). Now she is married fine with a kid.

BEWARE OF VIDEO CAPTURING TOO

pls wait for the right partner

I feel im stuck dealing with the stress

1/2 ur prob will get solved if u stay FOCUSED on ur work,

try to do simple things like drawing, singing, dancing, etc etc

i know it is very difficult without sex after tasted it but BE VERY VERY CAREFUL, dont let u r mind wander

U R GONA HAVE A VERY GOOD LIFE, JUST WAIT OK?
i ve 2 leave bye tc

[Jade girl]

Will do trying to do all the things I love you to do take one day at a time , and time heals everything thanks for advice

[Jade girl]

So he has has MSG me after 2 weeks saying he's unsure how to feel about the abortion he didn't know how to talk about it and was scare now I'm more confused than ever I just started to feel ok

[Guest]

AH
people should take responsibility for what they r doing not escaping

keep u r mind steady (dont loose to hormone influences)

just ignore, have u replied ( i think u would ve )

be clear in what u r doing , take time

play safe

guys who hide in such situations are the worst

don't get into trouble

cheer up just handle him tough

[Bladyn'smommy16]

Don't let him back in your life hell just hurt you again...

[Jade girl]

I did reply but wasn't mean then he started calling me Hun I said I would talk to him but only about the abortion he never said anything about his ex gf just said he wanted peace between as so glad I'm stronger now to see the signs