[kjersi]

I Tried

I Tried Everyone ..i Had No One To Talk To And I Was Losing It.....so Sad...so Lonely..i Kno He Was The Last Person I Should Have Called.....i Kno That More Than Ne Thing....i Think U Need To Kno The Story Of Us To Better Understand.....i Am 19 Almost 20 Right Now And My Husband Is 20 Almost 21.....i Met '"oscar" In 6th Grade..my Oldest Daughters Father...im 9th Grade I Started Messing Around With Him .....i Really Liked Him And We Even Dated For A While...we Stoped Talkin To Eachother...then Later We Would See Eachother Again....this Went On For A Little Over A Year Then I Met My Husband "ed" Through A Friend...who Really Liked Him..he Became A Very Good Friend Over The Next Year......i Continued To Have A Bad Relationship With Oscar And Ed Hated Him ...everything About Him ..he Even Tried To Kill Him One Time When He Was Drunk...ed Hated Oscar Becuz The Way He Treated Me .....there Was Always This Unspoken Attraction Between Me And Ed But My Best Firend Liked Him.....everyone Could See It Even My Best Friend.... Then I Got Pregnant From Oscar At Age 16 Almost 17....ed Was Very Diapointed And Kept Repeatin "i Told U" We Remained Friends And He Was Even There When She Was Born..oscar Was Never There ..i Never Saw Him....he Denyied He Was The Father Untill He Saw That She Is A Splitting Image Of Him....the Day After She Was Born Oscar Was Suppsed To Come To Sign The Birth Certificate But Never Came Becuz He Was Hungover....i Still Contiued To Be Basically In Lust With Him And Him Not With Me....then One Day I Found Out He Had A Girl That Was Staying At His House And That My Bestfriend Knew About It And Covered Up For Him....i Wsa So0o0 Upset...i Called Ed And Asked If We Could Get Together...then Wekks Later We Finnaly Did ...started Dating...moved In ...got Married.................and Got Pregnant....we Love Eachother And My Daughter Was 3 And Half To 4 Months When We Started Dateing....we Kno That We Were Supposed To Be Toghter....and I Ko It Ws Wrong To Tell Oscar To Come Over Becuz Ed Hates Him...i Messed Up I Kno..but I Still Dont Believe This Girl...she Has A Myspace..and I Look At It And She Wrote A Comment To Her Brother On October 9th "party Saturday.....belly Up To The Bar" ..and She Says That Shes Kno For A While She Was Pregnant...y Be Drinkin And Have Ur Picture Of U Drinkin If Ur Pregnant...also She Is A Big Church Girl...she Talks All About How She Dont Believe In Having A Abortion And Murdering Children ..then Y Would She Be Drinkin..im Just So Confused....i Dont Kno Wahts Real And Whats Not....anthor Lie Is She Said Was That Ed Came To Her Birthday On October 13th But That Is The Day That I Asked Him To Get Off Work Early So We Could Go Out...which He Did.... I Kno He Cant Be In 2 Places At Once

[sourpuss]

Too much drama, too many deadbeats. Move on. You don't need a man to complete you honey.

[kjersi]

i dont

i love my husband my husband loves me..i dont wanna throw everything away if in the end she was lieing

[sourpuss]

i love my husband my husband loves me..i dont wanna throw everything away if in the end she was lieing

Do you feel that this woman is the only thing standing in the way of it working with you and your husband? How do you feel about his role in this whole situation. You seem to be focusing on this woman, when it was your husband who went out and had sex with someone other than you.

[JubesInquest]

Sounds like "Oscar" is the Billy Badbutt in the situation.

You were (and probably still are) "lusting after him" ... as you put it. He disconnected things with YOU; and not YOU with HIM, so you were left without what is known as "closure".

You went on with "Ed" because he was "safe" -- you knew he would be there for you, he'd be "right" for you--- he even warned you against "Oscar".

Ed is P.O.'d w/Oscar because you still have emotions for Oscar. It's like you have these emotions for someone that has shown you he doesn't give a d*mn about you.

Ed wanted you to see that he won't treat you that way; but after years of trying to get you to see that, he's tired of it. Now he wants to be the one going back-and-forth between women and having the option to mess around with someone else.


It's still a sticky situation and you have children involved in it. Oscar will want to be in your life ONLY because he wants to be a problem for you. He'll use the "I-want-to-see-my-child" statement as an excuse to parade all through your life.... and cause you problems with the any other relationship you may have. He'll be glad if you call him when things go wrong. He likes being able to come-and-go in and out of your life as he pleases.
That is exactly why you should NEVER call him when you have problems in your current relationship. It's only an invite for trouble.

[kjersi]

i swear

i swear i no longer have feelings for oscar.i havent for a long time and thats true ed doesnt believe that he always says i see the same smile that u had when u were with him.he knows i love him.i think he hates the past.oscar is never there for his daughter and i dont ever contact him.his mother picks her up..i never even see him.the only reason he came that night was becuz he had been texting me and tellin me how bad he felt about not being there and what not..i just wanted someone to talk to and he was the wrong person.my husband doesnt believe me that i did nothing with him.

[kjersi]

the girl

she is at fault. i am fine with it if my husband went and had sex with herthe 1 time when we were apart.im not FINE with it but i mean i can understand.but if it wasnt just that time as she says then thats when theres a problem.my husband will say no im telling the truth and we even wanna leave sometimes and i tell him i dont just want to sit here dumb.i dont want any loose ends or questions hanging around and he assures me that hes telling the truth.and when she was tellin me that she was withhim sayin that they were togther she seemed like she felt bad and said she didnt kno and that she would leave him alone.then 2 months later she says shes pregnant and has been with him ever since she told me she hasnt...i believe its the females who r supposed to kno better.and i hate her for that

[Fallen1]

...i believe its the females who r supposed to know better.and i hate her for that

Maybe I'm misunderstanding what you are referring to as far as one knowing better. Are you saying that females should know better about affairs and a guy is not responsible for what he does because he doesn't know better? If so I disagree. I think that the blame goes both ways here. She didn't drag him kicking and screaming and make him sleep with her. He made the choice to do so. So he's just as guilty as she is. However, if what you are referring to is him telling the truth (it just happened the one time) and she is lying about other "rendezvous" trying to either cause additional problems and/or take him from you, I can see where extra blame could be assigned to her and she should know better.

I hope that what I was trying to say made some sense, I'm not very good at conveying my thoughts at times.

Tough situation you are in no doubt. I certainly hope it all works out for you.

[sourpuss]

I feel like we are all beating a dead horse here.

kjersi is obviously never going to admit that her husband betrayed her. It's always going to be the other woman's fault.

Get a paternity test, that is the only way to know for sure. Neither the woman or your husband is being completely honest. And be prepared to raise another woman's child and have this woman in your life for the next 20 years.

[kjersi]

o0o0 yeah

oh i kno he betrayed me ..he knows and he feels bad...tell me how can someone show u [FONT='Calibri','sans-serif']passionately how much they love and lie or say they r tellin the truth and relly look as if they r.is he just skilled like that or is he really??my husband hasnt even talked to this girl about the baby becuz he says he knows its a lie.i just dont understand how a man or woman...who ever can lie and look at the person they love and see them hurting.he tells me all the time hes sorry and that it was wrong.y be here. he has nothing to lose...i just wish i could see the truth[/FONT]