[broken1324]

my boyfriend is bi curious... and he has tried oral sex with his best guy friend before. he did admit this to me which i appreciate but at the same time i don't know how to tell him how i feel about this. he is always telling me and trying to show me how much he loves me and wants to be with me and he means the world to me as well but i am so very afraid that with him wanting to try out things with his guy friend i will lose him. he has even asked me if i would mind him dating me and his best guy friend at the same time... i was already hurting from finding out he was bi and that made me feel like i wasn't good enough or even just a toy to him which he both says and acts like it that's not the case and we do have a great sex life as well as a great overall relationship. but him asking me if he could be in a relationship with both his guy friend and me has me feeling broken. i don't mind the fact that he is bi it is the idea of him having a closer emotional/ physical bond with some one else. I've been cheated on and left for the other in so many of my past relationships im scared.

also we have been talking lately and although he does want to try out sexual acts with a guy he wants me involved in it as well. this to a point doesn't bother me because he does want me involved but that fear is still there. i have loved this man for 3 years now. we haven't been a couple for as long but he has been there for me and wanted to be with me for as long as i have. i want a long lasting relationship with him but i need help. im still hurt by him doing this but i don't want to leave him over something that could be not as big a deal as it feels like. plz help me

[caster]

Ask yourself this. If it were another woman how would you feel?
IMO, there is no difference.

Unless you want to be in a MWM relationship as a threesome I'd advise you cooling it with him until he has time to explore his bi side.

[rcoreyus]

Being a bit bisexual isn't itself a problem. Most people are attracted to other people in addition their partner, it doesn't really matter what gender those other people are. In most relationships people aren't allowed to act on those attractions, but that can vary. It is completely reasonable for you to not want him to be intimate with other people of either gender.

Is he emotionally attracted to men, or just physically? This is something you can ask him.

Is there any chance he could satisfy his bi-curiosity with gender play with you? Strapons etc?

Try talking to him to see what it is he really wants. Do your best to not be judgmental, to try to get his honest feelings on this, then you can decide if there is a problem and what you want to do about it.

[Pollon]

This really isn't about what he wants or what anyone else thinks is normal or a "big deal." It is about what you want. If you want to be in an exclusive one-on-one relationship, then tell him. Your gut is telling you that is what you want. Trust it. If you go along when you are so uncomfortable with it, it will eat you up. If he can't abide by your need for exclusivity, then protect yourself and let him go.

Good luck