[CX8888]

I was with my ex for four years.. he proposed to me on valentines day, which was the happiest day of my life. Only to find out he has had another woman on the side for the last 6 months. Now I'm left distrought, thinking how could any one declare your love and want to get married if you have another girlfriend on the side for weekends, whilst I stayed at home cooking and cleaning like a good partner does. I ended it immediately, which was even worse because he continued to be with this other women. Together they destroyed me, my hope, my happiness and have not given me a chance to greive for this loss I feel. My mind just cant understand why. Worst of all he keeps coming back into my life, asking me to marry him and be with him for life. After stupidly letting him back in and given him a million chances, he still continued to be with this other women. So I made a decision to delete everything to do with him, but I cant move on. Im stuck with this awful messed up feeling, living in a house I set up for him full of our memories. I just want to move on and forget he ever exisited in my life but I dont know how.

[CX8888]

I really need help :-( i dont want to keep going back to him but he always makes me feel bad for hima nd guilty for leaving.. why do such bad people exist? No matter what i do the last five months i cant seem to just walk away and move on. When will it get easier?

[lissy73]

A typical malipulator! Honestly your only chance of happiness is to rid of him out of your life FOR GOOD. It will be really hard but it does get easier over time. No one deserves to be treated with total disrespect like he has done to you. Hold your chin up high and start living a life for yourself. I know you have a whole house of his things, maybe at this stage just move them all to another room so your not constantly looking at them/thinking of him. Soon the tears start to dry up and you realise that why I haven't thought about him at all today.

The only thing you need right now is space and time to heal. It might take you 1 year, maybe even a few more, but you WILL GET OVER HIM and live the fantastic life full of love and happiness that you deserve.

[chookie]

It's hard because you want to believe it can work, you want to believe he can change and so you give them chances and hold onto hope...but from experience, I don't think they can change enough. It was nothing you did, and you deserve better! Be strong and be true to yourself and your needs

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It's hard to have a shattered dream. You have to move out from that house and in the meantime box everything that holds memories, and change the cushion covers, décor a bit so that it feels like YOUR house.

The problem is, you let him back in but he continues to see this woman and so you let him go, you let him back in and he continues to see this woman and so you let him go.

So, consequently, he wants what he wants, it all. When you allow someone to have it, they will take.

Is he really worth it? Really? You deserve respect, and someone that loves you inside and out and wants to just be with you.

It does get easier, once you learn to be on your own and start to enjoy that, enjoy the freedom to be you, enjoy someone flirting with you, enjoy doing things you weren't doing, at some point you will ask yourself why you wasted so much time and energy on him.