Feeling betrayed-
please bear with me,it may be a long story.
I need you to help me in giving me clear opinions so that it will be easy for me to take a decision as soon as possible.
Im 22 at present. I was in relationship with a guy after my schooling but later i decided to pursue my studies abroad but i dont know what problem he had may be he thought long distance relationship wont survive he ditched me and was out of reach without even explaining me. Later i concentrated on my studies for a while, a year later i fell in love with another guy.He and he were good friends and we knew each other since schooling. I thought he would be the perfect match for me and proceeded further though he is six months younger to me. Even he was interested in me even after knowing about my past. Things were fine in the starting stage. I gained the love,care,affection what i was yearning for.We even managed long distance relationship.We used to speak everyday over phone and skype. He visited my home when i was abroad and my parents knew we were good friends since school so even they were comfortable with him.
Few months later, i got a feeling that he is very annoying and dominating me a lot. He used to call me at night around 2 and ask me to come on skype. I dint tell him anything directly.I started noticing things keenly only after few months. He stopped me from revealing about mine and his relation to the outside world,When calls me to my mobile if the call is waiting he wants me to pick the cal immediately and speak to him but he said me don't expect the same from me. If he is on cal, he will speak for hours and call me when he is free, after that i shouldn't ask him whom was he talking to and why so late all questions. I thought i would give him his space and let him free. He will make me wait the whole night saying i will call you in a hour or so but then he wont call me at all nor attend my call. Whenever he wants he will speak to me. We had small problems of these kind.
Few months later, i had to return to my own country after my completion of my studies. I was expecting him to be in the airport to receive me whereas i was disappointed. Then, i met him next day to give all the gifts what i got for him. I assumed things will be fine because we had enough time to meet and speak. We had a mutual friend and one day night that mutual friend had called me and i knew he was high. He said me something that your boy friend had loved a girl before and also attempted suicide for her. That was single side. I dint believe him at all because i still had that trust on my love. But next day morning, i couldn't keep my mouth shut . I asked my guy directly did u love someone and attempted suicide for her. He replied "yes".
First question what i asked him was why did u hide me these days? he said me he wanted to avoid and forget few things which happend in his life so i dint share it with you
second question - When did this happen? - he said me when you were in abroad
third question what i asked was- so you were a two timer right? You loved me and that girl as well? - he said look i loved that girl but then she dint accept me (i.e) single sided love. I know what i did is a mistake later i felt the real love on you. He apologised for what he did. I was totally shattered after hearing this from him.
last question i asked him with tears rolling down my cheeks- who is that girl? He refused to say her name. I felt lost after all this.
I said him this is not fair at all what you have done to me and i deserve much better than all this and i want to quit. i also added i was there for you every single moment. You weren't there when I really needed you or during my ups and downs. You better not come back to me any time in d future. it is all over between you and me.. and off course it is my mistake too it was me who mistook our laughs, long night talks nd texts and inside jokes as you r caring and wasted my time..He pleaded me not to take any decision in anger. To tell frankly, We did not have physical relationship.But we guys made out. More or less like a foreplay.
He did not let me confess to my friends or to my parents that we are in love. I said him im not interested being in a secret relationship like this. He did not show any possessiveness- If i am speaking with some other guy or tell my love that shall i go out with so and so guy he said "yeah ok have a great time". Whereas he expects me to be like him without showing possessiveness. If we go out anywhere together the way he treats me will be entirely different comparing me to the times when we are alone. Now i feel he deceited me , was playing the fool around me. But even now he says he still loves me but i seriously don't understand is he true to me or time-pass until he finds the next girl.My problem is i feel very lonely even he is with me. He makes me feel lonely so much and i feel he lost the trust what i had on him. It is totally gone. Difficult to trust him again. Now should i accept him or say no to him and move on?
I need you to help me in giving me clear opinions so that it will be easy for me to take a decision as soon as possible.
Im 22 at present. I was in relationship with a guy after my schooling but later i decided to pursue my studies abroad but i dont know what problem he had may be he thought long distance relationship wont survive he ditched me and was out of reach without even explaining me. Later i concentrated on my studies for a while, a year later i fell in love with another guy.He and he were good friends and we knew each other since schooling. I thought he would be the perfect match for me and proceeded further though he is six months younger to me. Even he was interested in me even after knowing about my past. Things were fine in the starting stage. I gained the love,care,affection what i was yearning for.We even managed long distance relationship.We used to speak everyday over phone and skype. He visited my home when i was abroad and my parents knew we were good friends since school so even they were comfortable with him.
Few months later, i got a feeling that he is very annoying and dominating me a lot. He used to call me at night around 2 and ask me to come on skype. I dint tell him anything directly.I started noticing things keenly only after few months. He stopped me from revealing about mine and his relation to the outside world,When calls me to my mobile if the call is waiting he wants me to pick the cal immediately and speak to him but he said me don't expect the same from me. If he is on cal, he will speak for hours and call me when he is free, after that i shouldn't ask him whom was he talking to and why so late all questions. I thought i would give him his space and let him free. He will make me wait the whole night saying i will call you in a hour or so but then he wont call me at all nor attend my call. Whenever he wants he will speak to me. We had small problems of these kind.
Few months later, i had to return to my own country after my completion of my studies. I was expecting him to be in the airport to receive me whereas i was disappointed. Then, i met him next day to give all the gifts what i got for him. I assumed things will be fine because we had enough time to meet and speak. We had a mutual friend and one day night that mutual friend had called me and i knew he was high. He said me something that your boy friend had loved a girl before and also attempted suicide for her. That was single side. I dint believe him at all because i still had that trust on my love. But next day morning, i couldn't keep my mouth shut . I asked my guy directly did u love someone and attempted suicide for her. He replied "yes".
First question what i asked him was why did u hide me these days? he said me he wanted to avoid and forget few things which happend in his life so i dint share it with you
second question - When did this happen? - he said me when you were in abroad
third question what i asked was- so you were a two timer right? You loved me and that girl as well? - he said look i loved that girl but then she dint accept me (i.e) single sided love. I know what i did is a mistake later i felt the real love on you. He apologised for what he did. I was totally shattered after hearing this from him.
last question i asked him with tears rolling down my cheeks- who is that girl? He refused to say her name. I felt lost after all this.
I said him this is not fair at all what you have done to me and i deserve much better than all this and i want to quit. i also added i was there for you every single moment. You weren't there when I really needed you or during my ups and downs. You better not come back to me any time in d future. it is all over between you and me.. and off course it is my mistake too it was me who mistook our laughs, long night talks nd texts and inside jokes as you r caring and wasted my time..He pleaded me not to take any decision in anger. To tell frankly, We did not have physical relationship.But we guys made out. More or less like a foreplay.
He did not let me confess to my friends or to my parents that we are in love. I said him im not interested being in a secret relationship like this. He did not show any possessiveness- If i am speaking with some other guy or tell my love that shall i go out with so and so guy he said "yeah ok have a great time". Whereas he expects me to be like him without showing possessiveness. If we go out anywhere together the way he treats me will be entirely different comparing me to the times when we are alone. Now i feel he deceited me , was playing the fool around me. But even now he says he still loves me but i seriously don't understand is he true to me or time-pass until he finds the next girl.My problem is i feel very lonely even he is with me. He makes me feel lonely so much and i feel he lost the trust what i had on him. It is totally gone. Difficult to trust him again. Now should i accept him or say no to him and move on?
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