[Faye13]

Well I have to go to the doctors tomorrow which as I have no medical cover we have to pay for it, I don't want to move place to place and have to worry how I'm going to cover a medical bill, get places or how I'm going to find work. I really regret coming out to this country I left everything behind, I can't find work so I'm dependant on him which is driving me mental, I can't drive or anything and honestly I'm fed up of being here. I don't regret being with him not everything has been bad I did come out here for him but the military are unfair I know these rules are in place to stop guys going out and just picking up a girl but how about people who have been together for years and are not married there isn't anything for me. There has been moments when I've been spoken to by people on the base like a piece of sh**t and its all because I'm just a girlfriend. I'm honestly thinking of just going home as much as I love my boyfriend I think I need to be selfish and do what's best for me, obviously talking isn't do jack at the moment. I volunteer 2 times a week but I need an actual job.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You have to find the inner you, which gives you strength to be who you want to be in life, then all fits in with that, including the right relationship.

It sounds as if perhaps, you are not in that space but also that you allow others words to upset you as if you are an outcast.

Being on your own having not much to do, would want you to be married and have a child, but that's not the solution.

[AL0tT0Handle]

Faye, I didn't mean you were intentionally trying to "trap" him. I was saying that seems to be what he's encouraging, only marrying you if there's a kid. It makes NO sense.

I've done the giving up your life thing because of the military. And the one thing I learned, that had I done what I wanted, and fulfilled MYSELF first, before I "fulfilled" my relationship, things might have been different with my ex and I. Leaving my ex was the second hardest things I've done in my life (2nd to having to put down my dog/best friend) because I do love him and care for him, but I wasn't happy with me because of all I had to give up before I even accomplished what I wanted!

I was simply saying that yall seem to have a lot to work out as individuals and as a couple before any more talk of trying again for a child comes in to play, ya know?



And Jen -- country girl, born and bred! haha