[actonbell]

I think if he is trying to put his kids first you should encourage that, not perceive it as a negative. If he wants his kids more than weekends that's good for the kids, right?
I think you have to know your place and accept it in this arrangement and you haven't figured that out. You're obviously very discontent in it and it seems to me it isn't going to change much for you.
When I begin dating a man with young children, I know that I will never be first in his life or priority on any given day. Those kids are and they should be. When they're grown, sure they are less demanding, but they're still his kids.
Quite honestly, I wouldn't want to be with a man who put me above raising his children.
I think you should leave him and find someone who can give you the time attention that you need.

Raising children but then just going to also be absent from family, whether those are due to employment, a breakup, as well as other reasons, entails a lot psychological hardship. Joe most likely sees any additional time he spends with his kids as a benefit, just as he should. The laws of Cabernet still stand. The response toward the injustice strikes me as envious.

[epiphany75]

It's important to have a healthy and loving relationship whether your kids or no., however you mentioned having to take care of his children and ending up doing other chores too. It seems that he is taking advantage and just using you and is no way chipping in to work out this relationship.
Sooner or later you will start feeling the emptiness in this relationship.It would be better to confront and discuss and take a stand for yourself . Good luck