Hi guys.
So, I'm almost 19 and I'm on my first year of college. I have always been very attached to my family and always "obeying" them. But as I was coming close to my 18-th bday I wanted things to change because I was feeling like they were controlling my life more than they should. I also have a bigger sister, she is 26 now and we always argue because she is really too much controlling sometimes, even more than my mother!!
I am in a relationship for like 3 moths now(I've known him for years), and my boyfriend and her don't get along very well... (he is almost 21) I think she kinda hates him, for I don't know what reason. My friends (except one of them) don't like him eather and I don't know why... I know he is not really "hot" guy or whatever, and he is kinda my height, or just a bit shorter, but if I don't mind that, why do they mind?? Is it a logical reason not to like someone just because of he looks to you?
whatever, the big problem was yesterday. we are used to see each other everyday and they all say that this is too much, and we shouldn't. My father has been hospitalized for almost 3 weeks now and I don't really have much time to do many things, but still we find the time to see each other. Last night, we wanted to go out or sth, but it was a bit too cold and we didn't even know where to go...
so, my bf had the idea of coming over(my mum is in UK right now, so I was alone with my sister at home) with pizza and coke and watch a movie the three of us or sth. As soon as i tell my sister the idea, she jumps off and starts saying me things I never imagined she thought... she called us immature and that it really wasn't the time to go out, that i had other priorities right now. and even that OUR FAMILY had other way of thinking and doing things and that even her boyfriend (they had been together for 7 years) said no when she said him to come over.
she said that she didn't knew where we found the courage to do like we do. I felt really bad and I still haven't said a word to my bf, but I really don't know if it's us wrong, or it's my family that has a strange way of keeping me under control. (my parents don't know nothing for my relationship, yet)
I know that maybe it wasn't the best time and that she had a lot to do because of my father, but i really don't understand her way of thinking!
sometimes i think she is just jealous because i get to see my bf everyday and i am this close with him, even why we've been together for only 3 months. she hardly sees her bf once a week or maybe 15 days and I've never seen them kissing in front of me!!! they have 7 years together, for god's sake!
what should I do, because I don't to rise the tension with my sister, and i don't want my bf to hate her now. who has right and who is wrong? how can i get away of this sick control from my family??
So, I'm almost 19 and I'm on my first year of college. I have always been very attached to my family and always "obeying" them. But as I was coming close to my 18-th bday I wanted things to change because I was feeling like they were controlling my life more than they should. I also have a bigger sister, she is 26 now and we always argue because she is really too much controlling sometimes, even more than my mother!!
I am in a relationship for like 3 moths now(I've known him for years), and my boyfriend and her don't get along very well... (he is almost 21) I think she kinda hates him, for I don't know what reason. My friends (except one of them) don't like him eather and I don't know why... I know he is not really "hot" guy or whatever, and he is kinda my height, or just a bit shorter, but if I don't mind that, why do they mind?? Is it a logical reason not to like someone just because of he looks to you?
whatever, the big problem was yesterday. we are used to see each other everyday and they all say that this is too much, and we shouldn't. My father has been hospitalized for almost 3 weeks now and I don't really have much time to do many things, but still we find the time to see each other. Last night, we wanted to go out or sth, but it was a bit too cold and we didn't even know where to go...
so, my bf had the idea of coming over(my mum is in UK right now, so I was alone with my sister at home) with pizza and coke and watch a movie the three of us or sth. As soon as i tell my sister the idea, she jumps off and starts saying me things I never imagined she thought... she called us immature and that it really wasn't the time to go out, that i had other priorities right now. and even that OUR FAMILY had other way of thinking and doing things and that even her boyfriend (they had been together for 7 years) said no when she said him to come over.
she said that she didn't knew where we found the courage to do like we do. I felt really bad and I still haven't said a word to my bf, but I really don't know if it's us wrong, or it's my family that has a strange way of keeping me under control. (my parents don't know nothing for my relationship, yet)
I know that maybe it wasn't the best time and that she had a lot to do because of my father, but i really don't understand her way of thinking!
sometimes i think she is just jealous because i get to see my bf everyday and i am this close with him, even why we've been together for only 3 months. she hardly sees her bf once a week or maybe 15 days and I've never seen them kissing in front of me!!! they have 7 years together, for god's sake!
what should I do, because I don't to rise the tension with my sister, and i don't want my bf to hate her now. who has right and who is wrong? how can i get away of this sick control from my family??
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