[bratney]

I've been dating my man for over 2yrs now. We do argue a good bit more than most people i know. I think its because we are very much alike. But lately its been over ****** stuff. He keeps telling me i have to grow up because i still like cartoons and i like to play around and joke a bit. But i do understand we i need to be serious about stuff. These last two weeks he just doesnt want to call me anymore, he says he's not mad at me but i dont understand why he wont call me. He use to call me a few times a day. Now i have to call just to make sure he's still alive because he wont call me at all.I'm starting to think he doesnt care about me, my feelings or anything about me. What makes it worse is i have no one to talk to about it. My friends and parents dont like him so they alwasy blame he for eveything. And its really starting to affect my life more than i would want it too.

[sourpuss]

Sounds like he (and you) need some time to yourselves to cool off and think about what you both want in a relationship. Don't call him for a while and see what happens.

[bratney]

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i've tryed that already. He is one of those guys that think he's the "boss", if you understand what i mean. ANd it doesnt bother me all that much if he doesnt demand for stuff, as long as he asks im ok with this "boss" attuide. But i've done that before not called him and i can last up till about two day of not calling him then i get over worried somethings happened to him (he has a long drive to work) or that he's moved on. When we are together at the same house he is so nice to me but when we're each at our own house and we have to talk on the phone he is really mean to me. Says i talk to much and don't need to talk to him so for and so on. i just dont get it

[dgirl07]

I have to agree with sourpuss. The time apart will probably do wonders for your relationship. Its like the saying goes "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" and some may not believe it, but that saying has been around for years so there must be some truth in it. I know the time apart is easier said, than done, because you do worry. I'm a worriesome girlfriend too. But my boyfriend and i went through this and the whole time i was worried that when the time was over he wouldn't be coming back...but then i realized that if he isn't coming back then he probably isn't the guy i should be with anyway.

i hope this helps.

[bratney]

thanks

thanks for the advice and keep it coming please. i'm trying to think of how to tell him we may need a break with out him thinking that i'm breaking up with him. he did tho make a effort to call me today i guess maybe because its thanksgiving




ps. i hope everyone is full and happy from there thanksgiving

[mr.mansview]

I have to agree with sourpuss. The time apart will probably do wonders for your relationship. Its like the saying goes "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" and some may not believe it, but that saying has been around for years so there must be some truth in it. I know the time apart is easier said, than done, because you do worry. I'm a worriesome girlfriend too. But my boyfriend and i went through this and the whole time i was worried that when the time was over he wouldn't be coming back...but then i realized that if he isn't coming back then he probably isn't the guy i should be with anyway.

i hope this helps.

another saying that i have used on this site before, and i believe it, is.."if you love something let it go; if it comes back to you it's yours..if it doesn't, then it never was"..

[sourpuss]

Give it at least a week or two of not calling him. Just hang out with your friends, treat yourself to a movie, get a massage. Relax and focus on yourself, not on him or the relationship.
Make an honest effort to not give in and call him. If he calls you, just have nice conversation. Don't bring up how many days it's been since he's called, and why didn't he call eariler....etc etc.
I think you just need a break and some time to yourselves to be alone or with your friends.

[blue eyez]

I'm in the same boat

I've been dating this guy for a year and 8 months and every other day, theres all ways something going on in our relationship. For some reason i know that we shouldn't be together, but every time we break up we some kind of reason we always get back together. He dosen't tell me anything because he says i talk to much.We stay together but when i say he might stay at home maybe 4 times a week and all the other times i'm wondering where he's at. My parents and friends hate him, but i love him so much that i'm cluess to the facts right now. what should i do??????? I do know that it's probaly in my best interest to just leave him alone, sometthing just keeps pulling me back.

[sourpuss]

I've been dating this guy for a year and 8 months and every other day, theres all ways something going on in our relationship. For some reason i know that we shouldn't be together, but every time we break up we some kind of reason we always get back together. He dosen't tell me anything because he says i talk to much.We stay together but when i say he might stay at home maybe 4 times a week and all the other times i'm wondering where he's at. My parents and friends hate him, but i love him so much that i'm cluess to the facts right now. what should i do??????? I do know that it's probaly in my best interest to just leave him alone, sometthing just keeps pulling me back.

What do you love so much about him?

[JubesInquest]

Sounds like you've been put on a "Do Not Call" list!

Don't call this guy; don't go chasing around after him. Leave him alone, just like he obviously wants you to do.

He tells you that you "need to grow up" ... from the way this sounds, it's more like he finds you annoying.


Just leave the person alone. Don't call and don't worry about if they make it to work or not.
Invest more time in YOURSELF! Find things for YOU to do so that you're not spending your every waking moment on this guy. He acts like he's tired of you and he shows you more than he tells you--- just look at how he acts!

Go out with your friends! Go to the movies! Go out to dinner! There's plenty of things for you to do and see.