[sweet_peaa]

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I've been with my baby's father for 4 years now and have gotten more and more comfortable with sex I've had 3 guys before him but was real quite and not to sure how to start inituating the dirty talk or being the more dominate one. But now being with my bf he likes to have sex pretty hardcore and likes spanking and holding me down and pulling hair and I love it! But I feel he's more comfortable do you like having rough hot sex?! Or do u like it more quite or calm? Or how do u even open yourself up more to being more kinky?!!!!

[Trixareforkids]

My answer to all three questions is YES.

[jen1447]

Depends on the partner and what vibes you share (no pun intended lol), but like Trix I like all kinds. As to opening up the kinkyness, the one sure thing is that no matter what, it still has to be you. The minute you start acting like someone else, it'll fall flat. So just ask yourself, "what would sweet peaa do if she was being real xxx in this situation" and do it.

[rcoreyus]

Does he want you to be more dominant (sometimes) in bed? If so, has he hinted at what he would like you to do?

Interests vary so much. Rough can be just energetic, or it can be dominant, or even blend into rape fantasies. All fine if both people enjoy. Its very easy for things to go wrong though if one person is expecting one type of "rough" and the other does something different.

My wife and I only do gentle - which is OK. I'd happy with rough and light bondage would be fun but its not her preference.

[Romy]

We mix it up and I love that we do. Both have their positives.....when we make love it's so gentle, tender and loving and the connection we feel is so amazing an special but love when we have raw, wild, hot, sweaty sex. As for opening ourselves up to being more kinky....anything kinky came up in early conversations when we talked about what we'd done in the past....

[Patti-here]

It depends on my mood,, I can like it rough and hard,, but I like to be made love to, most of the time...