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  • dreaabaybee
    Junior Member
    • Apr 2014
    • 3

    Is This A Friend ?

    I've Had A "Friend" That I Have Known For Some Time And I Am Starting To Think That I Just Need To Let Her Go , This Girl Has Made Comments About My Mom Having My Little Sister Like Why My Mom Had Kids Late , Sh Questions My Family , She Has Told Me In The Past That My Mom Can't Support Her Kids , She Is One Of Them People Who Talks Too Much So I've Known To Be Apart Of Her Topics When I'm Not Around , She Is Also One Of Them Ppl That If She Has Something To Say About Something Or Anything She Post A Status On Facebook And She Has Said A Couple Things About Me , And She Feels That If Ion Hang Around Her Alot She Gets Mad Or Questions And Assumes About Me w/ Our Friend Eric , Like She Has Done So Many Petty Things That When I TRY To Explain It's Always A "BUT" , Like People Have Told Me To Cut Her Off Cause Somebody Like This Can't Possibly Be Your Friend Smh And It Makes Me Like Dumb On My Part ? So What Does That Make Me
  • Claret
    Assistant Admin
    • Jan 2011
    • 1823

    Hi dreaabaybee and welcome to the forums. First just a general comment here, please turn off the feature that capitalizes each word. Secondly please use periods and commas in a way that it denotes a sentence; then start the next sentence with a Capitalization. It just makes things so much easier for us to read.

    Next to your problem, let her go. Your family business is none of hers. Next time she makes a remark just say something like "Thanks for asking, but why would you need to know?" Walk away and leave her to think over what you've said.
    That which we forget may as well never really happened.

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    • Motorguy
      Veteran Member
      • Mar 2014
      • 3921

      Originally posted by dreaabaybee
      I've Had A "Friend" That I Have Known For Some Time And I Am Starting To Think That I Just Need To Let Her Go , This Girl Has Made Comments About My Mom Having My Little Sister Like Why My Mom Had Kids Late , Sh Questions My Family , She Has Told Me In The Past That My Mom Can't Support Her Kids , She Is One Of Them People Who Talks Too Much So I've Known To Be Apart Of Her Topics When I'm Not Around , She Is Also One Of Them Ppl That If She Has Something To Say About Something Or Anything She Post A Status On Facebook And She Has Said A Couple Things About Me , And She Feels That If Ion Hang Around Her Alot She Gets Mad Or Questions And Assumes About Me w/ Our Friend Eric , Like She Has Done So Many Petty Things That When I TRY To Explain It's Always A "BUT" , Like People Have Told Me To Cut Her Off Cause Somebody Like This Can't Possibly Be Your Friend Smh And It Makes Me Like Dumb On My Part ? So What Does That Make Me
      This is not a friend at all period, I would bring it to her attention and tell her if she does this again then your friendship needs to end period and walk off. Because if she done this to you she done it to others as well . People like this are not friends, they are someone you know after a while when she has no friends, she will finally figure it out and change her ways.
      When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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      • dreaabaybee
        Junior Member
        • Apr 2014
        • 3

        I Have TRIED talking to her about this and everytime I do she always hits me w/ "I have been there for you" smh and in all i'm tried of it. She has done petty things to me like hung up on me , she tells me about myself but then she always says it to somebody else , when I wanna hang w/ somebody else I always get short worded etc and i'm BEYOND sick of this to the point it's stressing me out ..

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        • Little
          • Feb 2007
          • 4329

          Just like any other toxic person, unfortunately even former BEST friends need to be cut loose. Not everybody can be friends forever.

          Naturally if these people feel they can "get" something out of your friendship, even if they are getting it negatively or selfishly, they will strive to keep it going. Maybe she just needs correction rather than to be let go - but that's a hard road. Most adults don't want their behavior modified. It sounds like you've already attempted to establish boundaries (such as her not repeating things said in confidence) and it didn't work. Sadly, that's prettymuch all you can do with these people.

          It's A-OK to drop your friends if you feel the need to. You've already qualified it to her (and us, but hey, we're trying to help ) You shouldn't have to continue to. You can take control by limiting or stopping contact. Don't feel bad about it.
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          • dreaabaybee
            Junior Member
            • Apr 2014
            • 3

            Everybody has told me I shouldn't be friends w/ anybody if they talk about your family and I've been letting her get away with this for too long .

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            • CHANDLERS WISH
              • Mar 2008
              • 22440

              Little covered it all and you already know the answer deep down inside, now just do it
              PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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              • robinerikson
                Member
                • Mar 2014
                • 54

                Originally posted by CHANDLERS WISH
                Little covered it all and you already know the answer deep down inside, now just do it
                This!

                You know what to do with that kind of a person. Do it, insulting your family is hitting below the belt, let her go. Period!

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