[Something_Awesome]

Hi everyone,

I was exposed to the philosophy/concepts behind birth order and romantic relationships, and so it was always something in the back of my mind. I can't post links here (not allowed I think) but there are a lot of stuff about it that can be found via Google. A site called lexiyoga has an interesting perspective on it (not sure how credible they are though).

THE GIST OF IT

Basically, the order you were born in (amongst your siblings) can have a pretty big impact with who you are compatible with. People who are only children are considered as well. Using me and my GF as an example, we are both the last born (youngest among our siblings). I am the youngest of only brothers and she is the youngest of only brothers. We are said to be able to have a very exciting and fune time together; we enjoy "playing and being kids together," says one site. However, our pairing is also said to be the most chatoic of all the pairings. We are supposed to be unorganized, unable to hold ourselves accountable, and expect the other to take the lead.

My best pairing is supposed to be a woman that is the oldest of brothers as well as a woman that is the oldest of sisters. The reason behind it is because these women can be very maternal and my personality is supposed to bring out the best in their maternal quality. They are also more likely to take charge and organize things, which is something a last born brother needs. It is also said that my match really enjoys my friendly and easy going personality.

I've read a lot into this stuff and agree with a lot of it. It's almost eerie. I do appreciate maternal qualities in a woman and I do want her to take charge early on. I also want a lot of my GF's attention (another trait of the youngest brother). I sort of agree with the chaotic analysis as well. To counter the chaos, my GF and I are supposed to use some serious teamwork (according to one expert). I am competitive... I know we will make it work

What are your guys thoughts/feelings on this? What is the sibling order of you and your spouse?

Again, sorry for any grammar issues, typed all this up on a phone.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Interesting and I am not sure that I would agree with it totally but there is always something in Science.

I personally think that the youngest get the raw deal in most cases as isn't the main excitement of anything " first time?"

So wouldn't the woman (child) first born, be a tad older naturally, maybe nurtured with a tad more love, being the first born and therefore perhaps has a little more knowledge of love?

It's like reading in my opinion "what is a Gemini" and then taking that all on board viewing who they are matched to and swearing away from any other sign, because a Gemini is only meant to be compatible to a certain sign or two...

I think it's the core values of a person that have to match. The rest can be different and maybe should be so that you gel better, without having the same core values that's where it all falls apart in my opinion.

[Something_Awesome]

Interesting and I am not sure that I would agree with it totally but there is always something in Science.

I personally think that the youngest get the raw deal in most cases as isn't the main excitement of anything " first time?"

So wouldn't the woman (child) first born, be a tad older naturally, maybe nurtured with a tad more love, being the first born and therefore perhaps has a little more knowledge of love?

It's like reading in my opinion "what is a Gemini" and then taking that all on board viewing who they are matched to and swearing away from any other sign, because a Gemini is only meant to be compatible to a certain sign or two...

I think it's the core values of a person that have to match. The rest can be different and maybe should be so that you gel better, without having the same core values that's where it all falls apart in my opinion.

Well, a lot of the articles I have read do address your questions. To answer one of them, the last born tend to be coddled more. We have more people to look after us and we get coddled for the longest period of time. This is a big reason why a youngest male and youngest female pairing is "chaos."

CW, are you the oldest, middle, youngest, or only child?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hobwash Mean't respectfully.

I was the youngest, my brother is 2 years older than me.

Wait, coddled as in over protected? tick
Coddled as in more loved? gong.

My Mother was the youngest, I think she received more attention than the other 4 kids though.

Could it be generation?

[Patti-here]

After I was born my Mother was from reproducing ever again

[Patti-here]

Oh rats, I left out the word "banned"

[jen1447]

Stop that Patti, only positivities allowed from you.

I suppose there may be something to the whole thing, but somehow I doubt it's really iron-clad ....too much else going on.

[Patti-here]

Stop that Patti, only positivities allowed from you.

I suppose there may be something to the whole thing, but somehow I doubt it's really iron-clad ....too much else going on.

Sorry that was just a weak attempt at humor, in all honesty though I think it may have been nice having an older sister .. BTW if it means anything I'm a Pisces "Key life phrase, I sacrifice" kind of fitting.

[Something_Awesome]

Stop that Patti, only positivities allowed from you.

I suppose there may be something to the whole thing, but somehow I doubt it's really iron-clad ....too much else going on.

Well, I think I heard it on Oprah in my high school days... Figured if Oprah hosted the topic then there has got to be some weight to it. Could be wrong though. May not have been Oprah.

[Pollon]

Haven't spent any time on it, but with regard to your "best pairing," I'd say this.

A first-born "motherly" woman and a last-born "childly" man might be attracted to each other, however, the differing approaches eventually becomes a problem when the woman needs her man to step up and take responsibility for protecting and serving the family.

The women in these couples that I see complain that being married to these guys is like having another child.

The men in these couples complain that their wives never stop complaining and they feel like they can never satisfy her.

The problem with these things (studies and theories) is that they are based on statistics gathered on larger populations. It's interesting information and can be useful for making public policy (like whether to legalize drugs or make cyclists wear helmets), but the variability of humans make applying the information to a specific individual impossible, useless and even dangerous.

I wouldn't choose a mate based on birth order but rather focus on the character and behavior of the individual person and watch how they perform under pressure or difficult circumstances. The birth order information can then be used to help you understand yourself, your mate and how the two of you interact in the relationship.

Good luck