[CHANDLERS WISH]

Tripple hugs and braveness.

It's lovely that she didn't realise and that she accepts responsibility.

I think coupled with the two ex boy-friends you need to see "ex's" are ex's for a reason and it's your time to shine now.

I think the boys were just as bad, knowing they were going to be married soon but wanting that raunchy good sex one last time.

Sex is 100% important in a marriage but marriage is about life, forever. I think that some men will let go of that side and go Vanilla, casual sex to be with someone they deem will stay for ever, with them until they are old and grey, a sweetness, strength,, lots of things add up to a relationship.

Now that they are all married or nearly married, you can sit back and close this chapter of your life and move on to what's to come.

It's only going to get better as you own yourself now. Don't see is as being alone. See it as being strength of where you are going.

[katzintheclouds]

Thank you ladies for your support. It was a rough day, and I'm still confused as to what in the world I'm going to do from this point on. She obviously still wants me in her life, I'm pretty sure she would cringe at the thought of me not being there and I have to admit, so would I. As I've stated, we've always had the friendship connection too where she's been someone I tell everything to and vice versa. She made a comment about the **** she had been going through during this period of time that I'd been ignoring her which was pretty rough (health related) and mentioned that she had no idea who she could talk to about it. Part of me was like "Oh boo hoo, you poor thing" but at the same time, in the end we were also best friends until that tangled mess happened.

She made a comment to me that back before she moved when she says "she was in love with me", that she had thought how getting involved could have the possibility of turning into a mess and we'd be out of the others life all together if something happened. I don't know how to take that really except that part of me understands, while part of me doesn't. We kind of left the conversation on a mutual "I feel better now that it's out in the open" but I'm now on a different side of things, how to feel NOW.

I don't want to lose her. But how do you make yourself move past that? Maybe we need just a break of some kind? I'm still thinking that me getting away for a while will be a good idea..

[katzintheclouds]

I will also mention that during that time before she moved, I was in a relationship and stayed in that relationship for five years. We both were mutually engaged in a long term relationships.

[jen1447]

I don't personally see this as an 'end it all' moment - far from it. She came clean to you and admitted being in the wrong, even while not being totally in the know. That takes some balls, and I think it also takes love. Don't turn your back on her now hon.

As to how you should feel now, there's no "should." Just let your emotions be what they'll be. If I were you, I'd follow up at some point with seeing her in person to put this all to bed. My guess is at that time there'll be lots of hugs and tears ....not surprising for two lifelong friends.

[katzintheclouds]

Yes, I am hoping we can see each other soon too, I was just thinking that last night. I hate that we are communicating this way as it just is so impersonal. With her being in Florida, I can't just skip down to her for a day or two. To top it off, her husband returns from his trip (he's been gone for an internship for a while) just next week. Thank you again for your words, it's truly a life learning experience.