[lexi]

I have a friend who I sleep with on occasion and the last time we got together he was dating someone else but he told me some story about how she was cool with it and I believed him which isn't the real problem...While we were in the middle of sex someone walked into the room and he got really weird (which is really odd because he is very into being watched) and stopped. Then he ran out of the room and told the person that we had just been making out to cover up what we were really doing. I wasn't feeling guilty at that point because I didn't realize that the girlfriend hadn't really said he could have sex until he came back into the room and was talking to himself and said out loud something like "I just wanted to make sure that I really like her" and I was just blown away. I left the next morning without waking him up and a week later I tried calling him to just say hi and he didn't answer or ever call me back.

He is now in Iraq and I think I could possibly be pregnant and I don't know what to do. He obviously should not have been having sex with me but we did and the whole pregnant thing is scaring me out of my mind. I think I should tell him so I don't have to be alone on this but then again we haven't talked since and he probably just wants to forget that we ever had sex. and then there is the fact that he is in Iraq and this kind of thing is not something I really want to just email him..

[Little]

Somewhere inside you must have known that his girlfriend wasn't going to be "okay" with some other girl sleeping with her "boyfriend."
But what's done is done; you can't contact him now except for through e-mail. He's not your boyfriend; it's his responsibility if you are pregnant by him but your emotional pain is not on him. He can be a slimy jerk all he wants; you let him.
Wait to find out if you're pregnant. If you're not, never talk to this guy again.
If you are, I wouldn't recommend telling him directly. If you know his mother or something like that, tell her first. It doesn't sound like you know the guy too well, so you don't know how he'll take that kind of news.
I assume he's in the military; e-mailing him to say you think you're pregnant could get him killed if he starts thinking about it in a combat situation.
You're probably just feeling guilty about the bad decision you made. Hopefully that's the only consequence.
Good luck with everything, and let us know how it turns out.

[lexi]

I know this guy really well actually and thats where some of the problem is...He usually is in open relationships and I usually know his girlfriends and how they feel about the situation... I'm more upset that he lied to me to sleep with me because well thats kind of slimey and not really the person I know. (I have known him for more than 6 years) And your right about the email thing I don't want to email him because of the whole him being in Iraq and maybe getting hurt because of learning that...

I'm taking a test in the morning so I will let you all know the results!

[lexi]

Is there not an edit post button? I misspelled something and its bugging me!

[sourpuss]

So are you pregnant?
I agree with Little. (again)

If you are not pregnant, cut off any sexual relationship with him. If you are, talk to his family and let them know so you can start planning for what you decided to do.

[lexi]

Test came back negative today...I hope that its right...

He emailed me today out of the blue but I didn't respond...I'm going to try to cut him out of my life...

I deserve better.

[dawn9800]

Good for you! Yes you do deserve better!

[sourpuss]

Test came back negative today...I hope that its right...

He emailed me today out of the blue but I didn't respond...I'm going to try to cut him out of my life...

I deserve better.

Yes. You do. Good for you, stay strong.

[commonsense]

Test came back negative today...I hope that its right...

He emailed me today out of the blue but I didn't respond...I'm going to try to cut him out of my life...

I deserve better.

Why did you think you were pregnant? Did you miss a cycle? Sometimes test come back negative early on. I tested negative twice once and was pregnant. If you still think you might be pregnant in a few weeks take another test, but early in the morning for a more accurate test.

[lexi]

Still no period, I am really hormonal, my breasts are sometimes super tender...The list goes on...I would be going on two months if I am pregnant so the test would be right after this much time wouldn't it?