[just4me]

I started on this forum to get help and opinions for a problem I was and am still having. I have gotten alot of help and opinions, just as I asked for. I've also gotten judged, which I kind of expected would happen as well. What bothers me is how can someone chose to judge another person when they don't know that person or aren't fully aware of all the circumstances surrounding the issue at hand.

I believe everyone is entitled to their own opinon and should feel free to give it as well. But I do not feel another person should judge another, it is not their place to do so.

I have allowed for people to make me feel as though I am not a good person because of choices that I have made thru out my life. But I am a good person regardless of what others think of me. I got involved in a relationship that I knew was wrong from the start but regardless I did it. I fell hook, line and sinker for a smooth talking man who hurt me terribly. Am I saying its all his fault? No I am not. Am I only playing the victim? No I am not. But we were both wrong, but it seems some think I am the worse person for being involved with a married man. Both are guilty, not just one.

I am only looking for words of guidance and help for what I am going thru as are others that join this forum. I do not want to start trouble here, I only wanted to state my opinion as well in hopes that those that have chose to judge me would rethink that.

"LAUGH WHEN YOU CAN, APOLOGIZE WHEN YOU SHOULD, LET GO OF WHAT YOU CAN'T CHANGE, TAKE CHANCES, GIVE LOVE AND HAVE NO REGRETS, LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE...ANYTHING BUT HAPPY!!!"

[Fallen1]

Years ago I used to be one of those people that pointed a finger and said how could you. I have learned over the years that even the best of us can fall to the "evil" of temptation.

[Fallen1]

After I posted the above I got to thinking about it a thought it sounded a little harsh.

In no way were my previous words directed at anyone. I wasn't meaning to downplay or diminish any hurt that someone might be feeling or even suggesting that they had no right to be upset/hurt. I was just simply stating that I have learned that all of us can make bad decisions in our lives and can fall into situations that normally we wouldn't take part in. I have become less judgmental than I used to be.

[just4me]

After I posted the above I got to thinking about it a thought it sounded a little harsh.

In no way were my previous words directed at anyone. I wasn't meaning to downplay or diminish any hurt that someone might be feeling or even suggesting that they had no right to be upset/hurt. I was just simply stating that I have learned that all of us can make bad decisions in our lives and can fall into situations that normally we wouldn't take part in. I have become less judgmental than I used to be.

I actually liked both of your posts and think they both were very good....its true even the best of us can fall to "evil" of temptation. I didn't think it was harsh at all. Actually its very true, because thats what I did. I fell for his "meaningless words" hook line and sinker..so its a true statment.

[Autumn]

I believe everyone is entitled to their own opinon and should feel free to give it as well. But I do not feel another person should judge another, it is not their place to do so.

I agree but unfortunately that is what the majority of people do.

I, myself used to be extremely judgemental when I was in my early teens - but at that age who isn't?! I'm now not so judgemental, I do give honest opinions but only if I'm asked. Sometimes I'm told I'm too honest but I always say don't ask a question if you're not prepared to hear an answer you won't like. Maybe I could tone some things down but I'm not particularly nasty, I do try to put things nicely.

Obviously I get first impressions when I meet people and I used to judge people by that first impression but I've learnt not to. If I meet someone and don't like what I see, hear or feel I'm still friendly and polite and I take the time to get to know them without judging them.

I'm going slightly off topic now..
I'm sorry you feel you were wrongly judged and were made to feel bad. On the internet it is hard to read people and to interpret what they are saying...the way it's being said etc. so maybe they didn't mean to hurt your feelings or they couldn't write what they wanted to say without it sounding hurtful.

[C]

Only when you can look at both sides of the road as you walk down the middle, are your eyes open enough to truly grasp life.

I have walked both sides...I have had an affair with a married man and had a woman try and seduce my husband in a hotel.....I believe I now grasp life.... My advice would be, don't ever throw stones....You just may live in that glass house some day.....

Just4me....Stand tall....You are a good woman....TC, C

[just4me]

Only when you can look at both sides of the road as you walk down the middle, are your eyes open enough to truly grasp life.

I have walked both sides...I have had an affair with a married man and had a woman try and seduce my husband in a hotel.....I believe I now grasp life.... My advice would be, don't ever throw stones....You just may live in that glass house some day.....

Just4me....Stand tall....You are a good woman....TC, C

Caroline, Thank you very much..your words gave me chills, touched me lots. You are a wonderful lady and I value your opinion and words.

[TheMainGirl]

OK Sorry to ask this in your "post" but could you please let know how to post something im new to this and i'm totally lost....sorry i apologize!

[just4me]

[/i]

I agree but unfortunately that is what the majority of people do.

I, myself used to be extremely judgemental when I was in my early teens - but at that age who isn't?! I'm now not so judgemental, I do give honest opinions but only if I'm asked. Sometimes I'm told I'm too honest but I always say don't ask a question if you're not prepared to hear an answer you won't like. Maybe I could tone some things down but I'm not particularly nasty, I do try to put things nicely.

Obviously I get first impressions when I meet people and I used to judge people by that first impression but I've learnt not to. If I meet someone and don't like what I see, hear or feel I'm still friendly and polite and I take the time to get to know them without judging them.

I'm going slightly off topic now..
I'm sorry you feel you were wrongly judged and were made to feel bad. On the internet it is hard to read people and to interpret what they are saying...the way it's being said etc. so maybe they didn't mean to hurt your feelings or they couldn't write what they wanted to say without it sounding hurtful.

Autumn,

I know what your saying. I to have been guilty for judging people when I should not have. And I'm sure there isnt a person who can't say they have. But I to have learned that its wrong.

Life is a hurdle sometimes, thats for sure.

Thank you for your kind words.

[just4me]

OK Sorry to ask this in your "post" but could you please let know how to post something im new to this and i'm totally lost....sorry i apologize!

No problem darlin. Scroll to the bottom and you will see a icon on the left that says new post. It will be at the bottom of the page where all the posts are listed. Just click on the "new thread" and that will get you started... Hope this helps.