[just4me]

It's like the story Ellie shared. She talked about two men she had dated, liked, and considered marrying, but finally had decided on James. She told her friend, "When I was with Michael, I thought he was the most wonderful person in the world." Her friend said, "I'm confused. If Michael was so wonderful, why didn't you choose him? Why did you choose James?" "Because," Ellie said, "When I was with James, he made me feel like I was the most wonderful person in the world."[/quote]


Miss Understood,,I want to say thank you and that I love this that you posted. I had to read it twice but I got the meaning behind it. AMAZING and very very true.

I have read your threads as well and feel your pain. I also see that you are coming out of the dark side and are becoming a stronger person. Keep going cause you are doing AWESOME!!!

My affair with a married man didn't end well either, but it wasn't because he wanted the wife. It was because he wanted the wife, me and other women as well. But I know how you feel. It is painful and it can feel like all hope is gone. BUT we are showing them other wise, aren't we darlin??

I think we are all in control of our own destinies...so now we move forward and control what we want to happen. Not let others control what they think we need or want but what we truly need and want.

Thank you for sharing with me, for it to has helped me. You are a strong person and only getting stronger everyday..and a wonderful as well.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

JUST4ME
Now I understand that if you do decide to forgive and trust again then thats that and you move on, letting it all go. Not looking for more and not throwing at each other everytime an arguement arises. But with the circumstances as mine are thats a little difficult. I think I just need to remember the saying " a leopard can't change its spots". And that even if he could he wouldn't....


Oh and CW and Fallen1..now I've been told that I have a HUGE attitude problem... Imagine that???


Round one for you, imagine that!!!!!!

I've finally realized all the times he has said "I always come back to you" is yes you have BUT thats because I have always let you come back and I have always taken your ****...that is why he always comes back.

Just4me
So therefore I have to turn on my camera and watch all that he has done to me to hurt me so to keep him away and not give him my heart anymore.

Funny how a picture tells a thousand words.............

Just4me
Trust is earned and I believe trust is also an aspect of respect for another human being. Anger makes you tired and bitter, I know I have been. And I no longer want to be bitter and tired. I want to be happy, I want to trust again, I want to be treated as equal..not as you play by my rules and all will be fine kinda thing. I also no longer want to be blamed for everything little or big thing that goes wrong. I want someone to stand beside me, not infront of or behind me.

Wow, deep and profound and YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT!

"Do not walk in front as i may not follow, do not walk behind as i may not lead, walk beside me and be my friend...." Don't recall who wrote that but seems we both know the saying....

Seems that you are truly seeking and finding. xx

Good for you....

CW