One of my best friends has had over 600 one night stands. I'm worried and when I try to talk to him he gets very defensive. Should I just drop it?
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If you come across as trying to get someone to change what they consider normal, you are likely to get a defensive reaction. What are you worried about?I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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I don't know. Today I found myself saying that I wish I had as many partners as him.
crazy, huh?Comment
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Maybe the worry is actually tied into jealousy. I prefer lasting relationships to one night stands, having done both and also having stretches without any type of relationship. What do you prefer? If you prefer one night stands, I can see where you would maybe wish for as many partners as he has had. Does he have physical or emotional problems and if he does, how are they related to his one night stands? Does he have people angry at him?I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
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I had a relationship, it was good.
now I just want casual hook ups.
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Seems excessive, but as long as he is practicing safe sex ALL THE TIME, and he is not misleading his partners just to get sex, I don't think it is an issue. However, I often find that people who have so many sexual partners are because they are players that will do anything to get sex. Does your friend do that? Does he lie, cheat and manipulate to get sex?Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)Comment
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ClaireKay,
I think that your friend isn't truthful. I think he's exaggerated his numbers or isn't good with elementary math.
If he is truthful, he could be suffering from a behavioral abnormality.
BTW, who brags about their one-night-stands?Comment
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