[Ellie!!!]

Ok... heres my problem. I've been seeing this guy who is really awsum so i dont wanna let him go over somthing silly + he is soooo HOT!!!
Anyway we ve been trying everything in bed u name it 3sums spanking, bj's tying each other up. It was great but now hes been asking me sum real weird stuff like getting three of his friends and u no blow jobs nd double ending me at the same time. He also asked if we could do a sex tape 4 the internet and he wants for me to have plastic surgerey.
Is this just a bad spell which tons of gys go through or is he just a jerk can sumone help

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Hmmm, they're quite normal fantasies for guys - at least watching it is, it just depends on what you're comfortable doing. You shouldn't do anything that you don't want to do. If you want to do it, fine, otherwise probably not. And complying to his wishes because you don't want to lose him is not exactly a winning strategy.

[Fallen1]

Hmmm, they're quite normal fantasies for guys - at least watching it is, it just depends on what you're comfortable doing. You shouldn't do anything that you don't want to do. If you want to do it, fine, otherwise probably not. And complying to his wishes because you don't want to lose him is not exactly a winning strategy.

I agree with Anon.

[C]

When people get sexually bored with each other, they have to dig deeper to find sexual things that will turn them. This ultimate passion.....Their fantasies seem farther off the wall and they search to find something new to stimulate themselves......There is definately a danger point in this.....How far can you go?....What can you do?.....And most of all, why at this early age in your relationship is there this boredom and void!!........A good relationship does not need this.......They love each other for who and what they are...Just my thoughts....TC, C

[Fallen1]

I would like to add that you should never have surgery to change your body for anyone. Your man should love you for who and what you are.

You need to decide for yourself what is to far, what you can live with. Don't do things just because this guy is hot. There are plenty of men out there.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Personally, I think the sickest of the lot is surgery... That's pretty messed up...

But then I'm quite facist about that - I'm not sure I could ever date a woman who'd had cosmetic surgery.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

What ever you decide, i wouldn't do the video/internet part regardless.

For lots of reasons, ie) your little brother seeing it one day, friends from school days, people at work, just needs one person to recognise you and try to send it on a spaceship around cyber..

Then there's also how you would feel 10 years from now, married and your husband saw it? Your future employment relied on nothing like this ever coming out?

There are some risks worth taking, but in my books there are also some not.

In a loving, trusting relationship, a video "for your eyes only", is norm but look at Paris, Pamela Anderson, they all come out for the world to see.

Because we don't know the future, as i said i wouldn't do it.

And, lastly, i do question why he wants to go to that extreme and let the world see as well...

If you want to find out if he's a jerk, or for real just with loads of fantasies, why not ask him that question.... seems that he doesn't mind 4 of his friends seeing "that video" with them in it...


Just a thought.


CW

[Richard S]

No, tons of guys do *not* go through this. You'd be surprised how many guys have trouble because their women won't even give them oral, let alone threesomes.

It really sounds like he's messing with your head, in a big way. Especially the plastic surgery part. As far as the internet thing, once that stuff is out there, it's out there forever. Nothing is more personal than deciding to have your "business" out there for millions of people to download, including perhaps people in your own family or community. Give that some thought.

There's nothing wrong with experimenting and pushing the limits into things that may be excessive on occasion, but at some point he has to accept you for who you are, since that's kind of the definition of what a relationship is. Set boundaries with this guy.

Good luck.

[jeanjane]

Run

Lose this guy. Anyone that asks you to have plastic surgery isn't someone you want to be with. It sounds like he is going to push and push until he gets what he wants as so far you have given everything he
has asked of you. He sounds like he thinks your his plaything offering you up to other men and you're so crazy about him it sounds like your willing to do anything to please him. Back away IMO.

[Uneeklyme]

Lose him over something silly? Your dignity and self respect are pretty high prices to pay for silly.

Do YOU want to do this stuff or does he want you to and you want to please him so you go with it? Not that the physical pleasure isnt real when it happens but do you feel ok with yourself afterward? Do you regret any of the stuff you have done with him after you have done it?

He is normal in that he has fantasies that push boundaries but video taping it and putting it on the net is a forever thing. Not something you can take back later. Look at what happened with paris hilton or miley cyrus or pam anderson and tommy lee.

YOU need to make the decisions about this not let him decide and you go along with it to please him. Yes, we want to please our partners however we can but our partners should respect us as well.