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  • Boogsmama,

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with your husband watching porn. My guess is that 90% of men watch porn & the other 10% are liars.

    Work on getting yourself back to your weight prior to pregnancy. You'll look a lot better, and you'll feel better about yourself. I'm sure that it'll go a long way to vanquishing your insecurities. And you should not feel insecure because your husband's watching porn. Remember that most men do. Your dad probably watches it.

    Do you watch porn? I've watched porn with more than a few women. The woman I'm seeing now loves porn, especially amateurs. I explained to her that porn amateurs weren't really amateurs. They were porn stars playing roles of amateurs. She didn't care. She likes watching it. She also likes a porn series called Casting Couch. There is nothing wrong with women watching porn. I think it's normal for men and women to watch porn. It's a lot of fun and leads to stimulating conversation. It's also a good way to intimate to your husband how you like sex. If you see a scene that turns you on, tell him, "We should try that."

    I love listening to my g/f talk while she's watching porn. She has let a lot of her sexual info fly while watching porn. "I've done that before and didn't like it," she'll say. I used to give Joe Blow blow jobs just like that, and he loved it," she'll add. She's said, "John Doe used to have anal sex with me just like that." When watching anal sex scenes, she'll tell me how much men love it, and we should try it. She's been trying for years to take away my anal sex virginity. I'm not sure if all men love anal sex. I'm sure the men she's had anal sex with loved it, but it's stretch to infer that all men love it. But I know what she's doing when she tells me that all men love anal sex. She wants me to have anal sex with her. Heck, she's flat told me many times that she wants me to bang her butt. There's no misunderstanding with her: she wants my package inside of her butt. There might be a time when she'll catch me at the right moment, and she'll get what she's after: my anal sex virginity. I think she sees it as a challenge that she'll win.

    Watching porn is an excellent way of learning what your husband wishes you'd do to him and what you wish he'd do to you.

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    • Originally posted by Beautiful Disaster View Post
      Yeah. In my opinion, a man who would wake up and do that first thing this morning after you poured your heart out to him over it last night is a man who isn't truly concerned with how this makes you feel.
      Hi Beautiful Disaster,

      We usually agree.

      We have to keep in mind that we're getting only Boogsmama's side of this story. His side might be completely different. For all we know, Boogsmama might be the cause of his jacking off to porn.

      They need counseling. Without it, their marriage might be in jeopardy. And she needs to consider watching porn with her husband.

      Sexual disparity in a marriage is a huge obstacle to overcome.

      I've read what prostitutes have written and I've heard them say when interviewed that married men go to prostitutes to get what their wives won't give up. Communication is crucial. As long as no one's morality is violated and he wants it, why would she not give it up? If a woman asked me to do something that didn't violate my morality, I'd do it.

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      • As a dude who's known a whole lot of dudes, dudes will endure no sex for only so long before they'll get it outside of marriage. Sure it's wrong for a dude to go outside of marriage to get laid. But his wife bears a lot of responsibility for pushing him to other sources of sex.

        Here's helpful advice for wives and girlfriends that nearly all women know: never withhold sex as punishment. Women who do so will probably regret it. A man does not want to be treated like a kid who's punished for what his wife thinks is a transgression. I personally know a woman who withheld sex from her husband as punishment. He put up wth it for a couple years. Finally he was done being treated like a child. He got a lot of sex outside of marriage, mostly with prostitutes. Finally he found a g/f. Their marriage was over. She begged him to come back to his family. It was too late. He had no intention of going back to marital hell. She did accept responsibility for destroying her marriage. And she learned a very valuable lesson: never punish a man by withholding sex. It won't turn out well.

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        • Congratulations mama! You just had a baby.
          Sometimes, it takes about six weeks for a woman's vagina to heal from a delivery. Am assuming that you had a vaginal delivery. You had sex with your husband before the six weeks were up. Hope you were feeling ok enough to do it and were healed enough !

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          • Originally posted by Boogsmama View Post
            [h=2]it kinda bothers me because he's looking at it while I'm home with him, while I'm taking care of our son.h]
            After carrying a child for 9 months and going through all the pain of birth, your husband's behavior would certainly feel like a shockwave. It is a shame that your husband does not seem to understand what you went through to give birth to his son.
            I think I would have smashed his phone by now and said look at ME. My body went through a lot. Have some compassion for me, your wife. Look at this beautiful son I gave you. Look at how blessed you are to have a wife and son!

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            • Hi amy40,

              After reading Boogsmama's post, my guess is that there is more going on in her marriage than she's revealing. Again, just a guess: she's not giving up her actions that have caused his responses. I might be wrong. I do suspect there is more to her marital problems.

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