[Ko0519]

Sorry today has been a rough day

[amy40]

then I get responses from him after I told him I’ll have my guard up now like, “good, you should.”

sorry you are having a rough day!

when he said "good, you should" have your guard up.....in a way, he was saying it to himself
he married a woman who cheated on him, and they didn't stay together but divorced
so now every woman he meets, no matter how perfect, he will wonder if they will also cheat, if they will also let him down

so now it's easier for him to break up with anyone FIRST before they HURT him

[atskitty2]

Let yourself feel all the feels...you gotta go through it to get through it. Ya know? Give yourself some time to grieve, then get yourself together, very consciously decide that the time for this is done...a few months or whenever you decide you've had enough. Otherwise you'll stay stuck too long.

Really, you'll never fully understand. He had reasons, and they're all wrong. All of them. He's a hurting, confused, possibly narcissistic personality. He hurt you, maybe because he couldn't hurt the one that hurt him.
That saying, "hurt people, hurt people". It's true.
Sometimes just messed up ppl hurt ppl.

But stop analyzing. Wondering why he did this. Learn what you can do different. You had pure intentions. At worst you were naive and trusting, you didn't do anything else wrong.

I feel for you...hope I don't sound unsympathetic. This will pass.

[Popcorn&Candy]

I agree with atskitty2: let this experience wisen you up: not harden you and make you bitter.

[Ko0519]

Woke up to a screenshotted text from a friend that he is on a dating app. He is back at it again so shortly after that last relationship. It’s just really sad someone could have you believe they love you and want a future then do all of this. It’s like he’s become a serial dater and definitely narcissistic or at least has strong tendencies. It’s just straight up cruel and like you said no matter his reasons they are all wrong.