And I'm not sure what to do about it.
I've been with my guy for 6 months. There is a large age difference (11 years) and so there are some obvious learning curves, especially for him, but also for me in remembering that he has not yet experienced life to the same extent I have. But, this has been the best relationship I have had in terms of healthiness, feeling good about it, wanting him around, trusting him, etc. I sort of felt like he was my reward for all the heartache of dealing with my former boyfriends death. He is thoughtful, loving, affectionate, sensitive, always is where he says he is, does what he says he'll do, etc.
Except last night I was asking him to show me something on Snapchat and I noticed a girls name on there with a little smiley face beside her name (which in Snapchat world means she is someone he chats with often.). I recognized her as someone he had met a month prior. She had hired him and his friend out for a show (he's a musician) she was performing. That was the one and only time they met. So why, a month later were they still chatting with each other?
Clearly, I was completely devastated and he immediately began saying there was nothing to it and that he has zero interest in her whatsoever. He said he sent her the occasional music picture from one of his shows (he always takes pictures of the instruments) and that she'd occasionally send him something related to music. I don't know what to believe. I asked him if it would bother him if I had done something similar and he said yes, it would. I told him he needs to do some soul searching and figure out why he felt the need to share things with this girl that he met one time. I asked him to think about why she was even a factor and also why he never told me about it. He was devastated too, he cried his eyes out, but I cannot help but remind myself that if he hadn't been discovered, he'd still be chatting with her, in whatever capacity that was. He has told me over and over for 6 months that I am the only woman he wants to be with and that I don't ever have nothing to worry about. And I don't know why, but for some reason I believed him, and part of me still does. I just don't know why he did this.
We have a trip planned this weekend that we can't get the money back on.
I'm devastated, my heart hurts tremendously and I'm just not sure what to do. That, combined with 3 hours of sleep last night has me feeling at the bottom of the barrel.
I've been with my guy for 6 months. There is a large age difference (11 years) and so there are some obvious learning curves, especially for him, but also for me in remembering that he has not yet experienced life to the same extent I have. But, this has been the best relationship I have had in terms of healthiness, feeling good about it, wanting him around, trusting him, etc. I sort of felt like he was my reward for all the heartache of dealing with my former boyfriends death. He is thoughtful, loving, affectionate, sensitive, always is where he says he is, does what he says he'll do, etc.
Except last night I was asking him to show me something on Snapchat and I noticed a girls name on there with a little smiley face beside her name (which in Snapchat world means she is someone he chats with often.). I recognized her as someone he had met a month prior. She had hired him and his friend out for a show (he's a musician) she was performing. That was the one and only time they met. So why, a month later were they still chatting with each other?
Clearly, I was completely devastated and he immediately began saying there was nothing to it and that he has zero interest in her whatsoever. He said he sent her the occasional music picture from one of his shows (he always takes pictures of the instruments) and that she'd occasionally send him something related to music. I don't know what to believe. I asked him if it would bother him if I had done something similar and he said yes, it would. I told him he needs to do some soul searching and figure out why he felt the need to share things with this girl that he met one time. I asked him to think about why she was even a factor and also why he never told me about it. He was devastated too, he cried his eyes out, but I cannot help but remind myself that if he hadn't been discovered, he'd still be chatting with her, in whatever capacity that was. He has told me over and over for 6 months that I am the only woman he wants to be with and that I don't ever have nothing to worry about. And I don't know why, but for some reason I believed him, and part of me still does. I just don't know why he did this.
We have a trip planned this weekend that we can't get the money back on.
I'm devastated, my heart hurts tremendously and I'm just not sure what to do. That, combined with 3 hours of sleep last night has me feeling at the bottom of the barrel.
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