[anonymouswhitefemale]

"Smarts" is accepted English.

Maybe somehow you yanks have forced it to be 'accepted' English, but coming from the land of the Mother of your tongue - it makes you sound like you still haven't managed to get the star shaped bit of wood through the star shaped hole....

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Let me pose a question here.

Men have emotions right? They get upset over the most minute things, understand loneliness, effects, intimacy to the hilt... Know how to please a woman...

All of the above?

Or, do they have limited emotions, those emotions only coming out mainly when it is something that they believe in agree in, or when they have been let down, hurt, they were bought up to be "tough".....

They were only bought up to please a woman in as much as keep her satisfied so she doesn't stray but what was that? In out, thank you mam? (*Past) They were bought up to go for it.

Now, reverse it and you will probably agree that women hold a much stronger percentage of emotions well in fact personally my "opinion" is they hold a great more deal of emotions, they want intimacy, they need affection...they need to be told their loved etc etc, more emotional, right?

So, to your question? Why do women band more with women? Because generally they have experienced let down after let down in the emotions department and understand the feelings and hurt from a Women whom states she has been cheated on, she feels that the long age history of Men will always either chase skirt or surcome to a seductress and give in.

That, that their parents tought them. Men don't cheat for any other reason? Not true but your asking why do we think that way, feel sorrier for a woman..

Personally I feel sorry for both..

Anyways...

I will also though LLL agree with Fire(m) in as much as in a lot of cases, it is therefore a case of missing links, be it intimacy, understanding, selfishness, the other person feeling neglected, non-important being a major factor of why people cheat. Seeing as you allowed that part back in again.

And, there are those including me, that may also feel this way, love to cheat for the affection, intimacy, missing excitement - but always walk first.. and never cheat, however, walking away, and then doing, still constitutes the same reasoning, logic... A missing link of some description.

Now, if you want to bite me in the bum go... haha. But don't say "your wrong" because I'm not...

Your not.

He's not and she's not...

No-one is.. It's a perception based on how an individual sees it, nothing more.

Running away now.

CW

[Muskitos]

challenging the younger

People who use the term "smarts", cannot be wise.

Hehe.

And fire, you might be able to win an argument with your children by saying "I'm older so respect me", however, in the world of rational discussions, it takes a little bit more than that.

Hi Anon...ale,

I am challenging you on that one. I do believe that we all should respect age. Now dont get me wrong I do not count Fire(m) amongst the elder (not yet anyway ).

But do not underestimate age and experience.

Let me put it this way.

If you are 20, dont you think you know a bit more then when you were 10?
And dont you expect that, when you become 40, you'll be a bit wiser then today?


We all learn through our experiences and you can't acquire experiences from reading books, experience needs time, hence.....

[CHANDLERS WISH]

This could in effect get quite interesting as debating goes haha.

True in as much as experience as in "time" does afford you more knowledge or does it?

When you were 20 Moskitos, and I was 20 and even Fire(m) it was way different don't you think in the dating game, sexual intimacy?

Now Anon who is also of a gorgeous age, haha, true story, i mean that, may not have had as much "experience" but listen to him talk, rationlise, his knowledge how is that?

I can name someone else who is A, or L, she knows but same thing, how is that?

Do they, communicate with way more people than we ever did? Like over a 12 month period, would their conversations be more so than say Me at 45, not here, but with friends, what 3 a month? Where they are on My-Space, all sorts of sites, 400 friends on those sites, all talking about what happened today, yesterday are they being fed way more knowledge than us gorgeous young 40+ are?

I think so.

I know so.

I am part of them haha cause i refuse to grow old, plus I'm single, and I communicate with lots of 20 year olds, and it fascinates me to the hilt how much they know as if they were my age..

That's a fact.

CW

[Muskitos]

Oh Chandler,

I do agree totally with you that the young ones of today know a lot more then we did at that same age. Different times, different technologies, different possibilities.

I do meet/speek a lot with very young people. I have 2 boyes in their early twenties and lost of their friends hanging around.

That is why I KNOW I am wiser (and a lot older too haha!).

Some things you simply learn by age and that is good!

[Muskitos]

forgot to add a note : however I still do not know how to send you a private message! now I bet all these young ones have no problem with that! LOL

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Oh Chandler,

I do agree totally with you that the young ones of today know a lot more then we did at that same age. Different times, different technologies, different possibilities.

I do meet/speek a lot with very young people. I have 2 boyes in their early twenties and lost of their friends hanging around.

That is why I KNOW I am wiser (and a lot older too haha!).

Some things you simply learn by age and that is good!

haha, well i'm not dissing that either. I acknowledge as we listen sometimes we speak and they all of a sudden change their thought pattern or "understand" from the "wise"

I said it could get interesting

So, yes somethings for sure we can no doubt "teach the younger" I am pointing out that yes, as you agree, they have a lot more openess, are way more knowledgeable even understand intimacy, read more, feed their brains more, retain more ( come on that one you definately have to agree to ) than we ever did at their age.

Sorry LLL Threads can change in any direction they wish to and you can bring them back to the original question anytime, as it is your thread.

CW

[Muskitos]

Chandler dear,

I would dare to challenge you on "they understand intimacy more".

I do believe they know a lot more about s*x, compared to us at that age, and I mean A LOT!!!

But when it comes to intimacy, relationships?

Dear read all these threads, many of them comming from our youngster.

They just go through the same way we did and our parents did before us and... and...

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Hi Anon...ale,

I am challenging you on that one. I do believe that we all should respect age. Now dont get me wrong I do not count Fire(m) amongst the elder (not yet anyway ).

But do not underestimate age and experience.

Let me put it this way.

If you are 20, dont you think you know a bit more then when you were 10?
And dont you expect that, when you become 40, you'll be a bit wiser then today?


We all learn through our experiences and you can't acquire experiences from reading books, experience needs time, hence.....

I never said that age didn't count for anything. What I did say, was that stating that you are older does not mean that you are correct and do not need further analysis of your views... As in, "look, there's no point in discussing it further, I'm older than you, therefore I know better. Accept that." It is obvious, that the more time you spend on this earth the more information and experience you can soak up, all of which will give you stronger data to draw conclusions from.

However, to 'win' a discussion about something, a declaration of age is irrelevant if you are a man or a woman is irrelevant, the only thing that is relevant is what you say - the points you make and what you use to substantiate them.

You are more likely to have a good answer as you age (well, once you've hit 40 I'd say it's regression from thereon out), however I can say with first hand experience that I am far more 'wise' than many old people I have met. It is also true that the older you get, the less capable you are of change, which includes changing your mind. Old people are never wrong. They simply cannot deal with it. They will desperately cling onto a belief when offered evidence to the contrary - is that conducive to being wise?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Chandler dear,

I would dare to challenge you on "they understand intimacy more".

I do believe they know a lot more about s*x, compared to us at that age, and I mean A LOT!!!

But when it comes to intimacy, relationships?

Dear read all these threads, many of them comming from our youngster.

They just go through the same way we did and our parents did before us and... and...

Dear Chandler,

lol, see your already talking OLD...Not Chandler ... Dear.... lol.

I am not saying at all that they understand it more no way, I am saying they WANT to know MORE and HOW, now when we were young they did not care, right? It was BJ, and SEX, where did they acknowledge, the importance of intimacy for a woman? Now they read, learn, experience and try to impress or accept and know...

And I love a challenge...

(Private Messages should be enabled soon we posted at the same time, i am sure it will happen)

Now, we agree there, they DO KNOW ALOT MORE.. But I agree, relationships, well I don't know they try, as we did back then maybe, however, a more "experienced man" who has learnt what doesn't work and what does, AGREE he has more wisdom and can generally be better" not always the case, we can teach them NO?

They do, you are right exepting they have sites like this other ones to read, they are more knowledgeable at least in the department of "trying"...

HAHA

CW