[Tawni[WIT]]

Hello everyone! i just joined this sight and thought i would ask for some advice. I'm 19 and my "boyfriend" is 35. We work together and have been messing around for almost 5 months. He has never really gone out and said we're boyfriend and girlfriend, so it's hard for me to know where we stand. well anyway, he was the first and only guy i've ever had sex with. we do go out to the movies now and then. and i know he cares for me..i just don't know how much. it's sorta confusing. well i usually stay the night at his house once a week or so and hang out with his roomate..we always have fun. blah blah blah! To get to the point i absolutely LOVE kissing and making out. and he doesn't like to kiss. when i text him while we're at work or something to ask for a goodnight kiss, we meet up and all i get is a peck or two. and other than that we only kiss, if im lucky, during sex. can someone please help me to get him to make out again? im desperate!

[Guest]

did ya come right out and ask him?

[shweedart]

He seems like the type you mess you around, do you like him enough to be worried? or is it worth moving on?
If you stay, make it clear what you want

[shweedart]

*to mess you

[silvertae]

I don't trust guys who don't kiss. And this guy doesn't sound all that trustworthy. I think generally people avoid kissing when they're not all that into the person and it's just about sex.

[Guest]

+1 on what silvertae said !

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Kissing is intimacy... Passion.

If someone doesn't kiss i totally agree, they are not getting "emotionally" involved and ensuring that you don't either.

Let's make it clear it is sex only...

I know it's been 6 months and he is older than you, not a concern but he should be treating you with passion, not seeing you once a week, maybe twice an occasional movie, and a kiss on the cheek.

Kind of makes me feel that he cares because he was your first, but it is just a friendship with some benefits.

You deserve a bit more than that.

If he wanted to kiss you trust me he would...

You could try dressing up in sexy clothes and walk up to him and just kiss him, whilst his mind is on other things like wow you look hot, just so you can get that experience once and for all from him, turn up the heat and you might even see him more and get more kissing.

But, don't you want a guy there for you on-going?

[rcoreyus]

Sorry, but need to ask - is it possible you have an oral hygene problem? Otherwise I don't know, most men like kissing.

[sourpuss]

I don't trust guys who don't kiss. And this guy doesn't sound all that trustworthy. I think generally people avoid kissing when they're not all that into the person and it's just about sex.

I agree. I've always thought that. If you are really in to someone then you'll enjoy kissing, if there's no connection and you're just there to have sex, then you're not going to spend 20 minutes making out.

He's not admitting that you are an item and he won't kiss you. Yet he'll have sex with you. Those are some pretty big red flags.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I agree. I've always thought that. If you are really in to someone then you'll enjoy kissing, if there's no connection and you're just there to have sex, then you're not going to spend 20 minutes making out.

He's not admitting that you are an item and he won't kiss you. Yet he'll have sex with you. Those are some pretty big red flags.

Regarding your other thread? Now that i remembered this one? Don't go, would be my suggestion unless he over the past 2 months he has changed, and gives you the attention you deserve..

Sorry, agree with Sourpuss otherwise, there are lots of red flags ok...

CW