[3girls4me]

Dh doens't want sex. He's used a variety of excuses, from it not the same since he had a vasectomy(which I don't believe because things where fine for the first year after) to it hurts, to he's sleepy, or I smell or my legs are to hairy. I don't think he has time to be having an affair, but I doesn't seem like he's interested in me. Before the no sex started he was interested in getting head but not giving it. Another thing to make me wonder what's up. I can't even remember the last time he went down on me was. I've noticed that his penis is smaller then it used to be. Is that normal? So what do you think. I'm only 34 and I know I can't live the rest of my life in a sexless relationship. I

[CHANDLERS WISH]

If he is stating that you smell or your legs are too hairy, then you have to consider that he is saying to don't look after yourself, pay attention to you, therefore, he doesn't find that attractive.

If you don't shave your legs very often, could it be that you don't wear lipstick, you dress mainly in track suits, you don't care what you hair looks like, etc, etc, if that's the case take a serious look at yourself in the mirror..

All men like to receive "head" let's face it, and loving partners like to share, and it could have to do with hairy legs, hairy down there?

Do you think his penis is smaller? Or really, it's not fully erect as it used to be?

I think you need to ask what the rest of your relationship is like outside of the bedroom, how is that side?

Sex is "intimacy" and want and will and desire to be shared by both parties but if the home is not happy, you can bet sex won't be on the cards.

CW

[Joy]

i know you must be hurt and feel rejected by this but it is an opprotunity to use your imagination and do things differently. Go get a new hair cut or color, a pedicure, and a brazillian. CW had good advice look after you and dig out your sexy seductive self.

[WildChild]

Get him in for a physical. Talk to the doc when you make the appt and explain what is going on - could b e hormone problems, testicular cancer, who knows what else byt rule out physical causes first.

[Joy]

phoebee great site good find.

[Phoebee]

DH found the site and got help from reading the posts. He said when the women said things like "Whats wrong with my idiot husband. He won't see a doctor!?" He thought YEAH! Thats . Ahh wait... Thats what I DO!!!!

Ha!

I like the fact that you can go there and vent your frustrations and not feel alone.