[Guest]

So he lied about not sending a message to someone. I know he attempted to send me (on the site) a message cause it is in his sent box (I know his password). So I have already confronted him about it. I tried the e-mail thing that you suggest (but I didn't say I got his e-mail from the site). He gets those spam (the ones that direct you to a porn site) e-mails all the time and he deletes them without opening because he gets them all the time...anyway, I am still going to try it.

Wait a minute, you said in the above you caught him in a lie and that you see a message in his sent box, sooo,
I'm wondering do you really want to put yourself thru more of this. I mean the more you go thru all this it could get kinda nasty. I'm just asking you to think a little more before you do anything else. You are going to be hurting enough as it is already, you see what I'm trying to say?

[Joy]

Torn ... my heart goes out to you. Everyone has pretty much said what i would tell ya too. Remember in all of this its not about you. Its and insecurity inside of him. Don't project this onto yourself.

[Guest]

So he lied about not sending a message to someone. I know he attempted to send me (on the site) a message cause it is in his sent box (I know his password). So I have already confronted him about it.

well, you seem to already be past the point where you play the BS. You know he tried to send an email or whatever to someone else. You're at the point where you need to let him know that the truth is what matters, regardless of what it is.

Telling the truth isnt always easy, when it's about something you are embarrassed about. It's not always reasonable to expect the truth right off the bat. But you should be able to get it reasonably soon afterwards.

As i said before, this may be him wondering if he should try for a last fling before marriage. Still not agreeing with it, but cold feet....

What you need to ask yourself before doing anything though, is where is your personal line in the sand & how long you wanna play games!

[coral-sky]

Hi...some guys have egos that are happy getting nutured by these dating sites...seriously...probably means nothing. People can say whatever with a keyboard.
Trust your intuition...then go and seek your own satisfaction...by going to the gym, or spending time with friends, playing happy music and dancin round the lounge or whatever.
Dont spend your time lookin for the answer you already suspect...time totally wasted!
If your man 'caught you doing the same thing...what would he do or say?
All the best

[mburen0001]

Well I have kinda been in the same situation as you. My fiance has profiles on those kinds of websites. I confronted him with this information and he said his friend made his account for him. I know he is lying but I don't think he would actually cheat on me, but I might be in denial. Anyways I agree with ChelseaRenee that men do this because of interactive porn or to view porn. I don't know if my man has ever actually talked to another girl on these websites but I know ___ is a porn site and you have to create a profile to view anything. As for ___ he made that one to me off because I threw such a fit about it. He knew I would find it and he did it as a joke. I think as long as he is just doing it to veiw porn its not cheating. Anyways if I was in your sitation I would try to set him up. See how far he takes it. Don't intice him though let him do all the talking and dont suggest a meeting, see if he takes it there. Hope this helps.