[staceylynn1120]

Me and my husband has been married for 3 years but been together for 6 years......well couples weeks ago he told me that if i don't start giving him sex that he was going to find someone to have with.......so now it has me thinking that he may starting to find someone else....and he wants when he wants it and sometimes im not in the mood to have sex.....so i think that all he married me for to be his sex slave....when we first got together he was still with his ex girlfriend and it took him 3 weeks to broke it off with her....i think he going to do the same thing to me.....cause she never give him enough sex......and we can't have sex all time cause we have a 6 year old boy and a little that is always........i just don't know what to do?

[Guest]

greetings fellow Marylander! FRNX too?

I'm a guy, so please understand my perspective is going to be different.

It's not because he wants you to be "his sex slave", but because he wants to have sex and wants to have it with you.

Yes, us guys see sex differently, generally want it more than women do, for a wide varoety of reasons. Some physical, some psychological, some hereditary, some "learned". It's just the way it is.

There are articles around about the difference between how men and women see sex. I can't give you a link because it's not allowed on this forum. but if you search I'm sure you'll find one of them.

BTW, have you ever come right out and asked him why? Many couples think they talk about things, but real discussions dont happen anywhere near as often as they should.

[Joy]

How long do you guys go without having sex that he is telling you he gonna find someone else who does wanna?

I think it is a scare tatic and he would rather have sex with you........ he wants you to want him cause he wants you. He wants to know you think he is a hot studd!!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I agree.

If he wanted an affair he would simply go right out there and have one and say nothing.

You have been together 6 years, and you have a 6 year old, so if i way that up, I'm a tad confused...where did the other 9 months go?

But, therefore, he left the other girlfriend assuming because you were pregnant?

So did he cheat on her? For you... Is that what you are frightened off? She wasn't sexual enough and so he met you and you both had a fling...

I am also just as curious as to the amount of times you have sex, the little one, you also have a new born?

I think you need to add a bit more into your thread so that we can offer better advice to you.

CW

[rcoreyus]

I guess it depends on how unreasonable his demands are. If he wants sex several times a day, even when you are tired and ill, then he is being unreasonable.

But, if you are having sex once a month and he wants more. If he tries to please you in bed, and is generally a good guy, then you need to ask yourself why you don't want to have sex with him.

Sex is an important part of marriage. People's interest in sex varies, but I think that within reason one should try to please one's partner. I think wanting sex a couple of times a week is completely reasonable.