[Passion]

So it is confirmed, he is staying with the other women and it hurts because he was not man enough to tell me he left me because of that girl. It is so difficult to comprehend that all that it was so easy for him to let go of 15 years for a women who does not respect someone else's husband. He told me he needed to stand on his own two feet, yet he is living/staying with someone else. He told me he wanted to be a man and needed to be sophisticated. How is that being a real man and how is that being sophisticated. So he just turned his back on me so easy for him. It hurts because I would have never done that to him, I had much more respect for him to do that to him. All that crying last week was all guilt, How could he forget what I gave him I was the only woman in his life that did not abandoned him, His mother did and his grandmother did as well. I was the only person in his whole entire family that supported him, believed in him, and stood by his side. yet he leaves me for someone that only looks up to him because of his art because she sure does not know who he is. But I guess I never knew who he really was either. So I am done. He can stay with her and live their dream together. It hurts a lot and I will cry till my eyes are dry but I will also never forget and I hope that one day he realizes what he has done.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Passion.....

I am so sorry....

We are different mainly... We seem to have more emotions, morals, trust, love...

Not always, there are very romantic, cool, strong, intelligent, sensitve men, but they are few and far between from what I can tell here...

You know that they think the grass is greener.

Ask yourself this? Think he can forget 15 years? really? do you?

Let him think it's all good.... And, trust me at some point, he will wonder and will you be there?

CW

[Joy]

one day Passion his lies will catch up to him and he will have to stop and face himself. This sounds like a mid life crisis. He can not turn back the hands of time. I know this hurts you so much right now. The bright side to this is you are free to take this pain and anger and turn it into something beautiful for yourself.

you said you supported him while he chased his dreams well its time you supported you and go after your own. Do some soul searching and do something you have always wanted to do. Open a new door in your life. Go forward and live your dream. Along the way you will find a man that wants to share that with you. In the end this could be the best thing that ever happened to you. It just hurts a lot right now.

[Passion]

It does hurt alot and it does not make it better that he decided to leave me before the holidays. It feels worse because he was a great part of my family. I don't have a big family it is just my mom, my brother, and me. It just feels that our family is getting smaller and smaller and it will never grow. It is very difficult to see an empty spot in our dinner table. I miss him so much even though he left me like a coward.

[happy ending]

well if you get a chance to speak to the other woman - just say "honey if he did it for you - he'll do it to you" i know you are hurting incredibly now. betrayal is very difficult to cope with, i just hope things get better. a lot of us on this forum seem to have suffered it in the past and our thoughts are with you.

[Passion]

Thank you. It is scary to know that this happens to a lot of us. I guess I have to learn to grow strong, learn, and move on. I do wish that this will lead me to something better. I really do.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

How else can I say this?

Never give up.... Never stop believing... Whilst grieving you ALL think that you won't find better, but what you don't see is all that was wrong, all that hurt, all that you didn't like..

It is the most strangest thing... For some reason "we" yes, i will say "we" think only of the good things, only of what we liked.

Why? Because of in-security and fear. Can we? Will someone else like me? Will they accept my children? Am I too old?

Heck no... well i wrote that in a blog here, Heck no.....

I think un-fortunately we can tell you all till the cows come home, do something different, make yourself feel good, see you for you, and then see your self worth, but it's never listened to...

Reason?

Because until every ounce of love " even friendship love" you know, like well we weren't good lovers together, yet i can be, we weren't this, but should have been, etc, until you realise that there is NOTHING left...... you can not move your heart on and therefore, you can not understand who you are, what you deserve and attract a like minded person in your life.

You have to let go... past is past... present is present... future is future....

CW