[Passion]

So I had been thinking about it for so long and I wanted to go to back to Hawaii where we got married once I was ready to throw our wedding bands back in the beach that we both got married as a reminder to myself that I had let go but everytime I looked at the wedding bands and as much pain as I have been to as I learn new reasons of why he left me I was getting closer and closer to wanting to let go of them sooner and in a nearby beach. Well today, I finally decided that today was the day. Too much pain is scared deep inside me that I just felt the urge to let it go so I went to a nearby beach where he surfs with two of my friends and I threw both of them while the sun setted. It was beautiful the moment the ocean, the breeze, the new moon, and the color of the sky. So I threw them I cried my friends cried and hugged each other as it signified letting go of something so beautiful and yet so painful. We all walked down the beach and listening to the ocean, feeling the breeze and smelling the sea just took me back to our wedding night and It was so hurtful to know that I had to let go of what had been my dream with him and Yet he will never know of what I have been going through. I cried and cried, and still am crying cuz of the reality of it letting go of all hope and dreams of being back in his arms and him telling me that he was happy with me, It all had to come to an end and in my heart I had to do this to let go of us that was never meant to be. I hope that one day I can go back and embrace the beauty of it. I just had to do it because it has been so painful although I try to be very strong it still hurts deeply that he let go of all that our vows and our commitment to each other.

[Searching_82]

That is a good way to let go Passion..atleast you didn't get yours thrown at you. I like your idea much better.

[WildChild]

Having a letting go ceremony of some type is always a good idea. Very healing. And traditionally moving water is the preferred way to let go of things like this, your instincts were good. Good for you!

[Joy]

Passion good for you! The water and New Moon are both good symbols for letting go and starting a new cycle.

Happy New Year all the best for you in 2009

[starvingforsex]

What you wrote was so beautiful and touching...it made me cry.

LOL I had a similar ceremony once....it was probably unhealthy but it did make me feel better. My friends(most of them) and I had been through recent break ups and been hurt. We decided to make soap men...we took bars of soap and carved them into men(our representations of our ex). Then we went to the baseball field and placed them all on home plate covered them with gasoline. We each gave a eulogy before we burned them alive. Sounds sick, but it was really funny at the time and we all felt great afterwards. Letting go is very liberating...I am proud of you. We all do what we have to ..to move on. Take care.

[happy ending]

congratulations passion, i hope you are still taking care of yourself, moving on is so important. i hope 2009 is a great year for you!

[geogeo]

I think you are so very brave...it is the letting go that is the difficult bit...it must have hurt so much. You sound like a lovely person and I hope in time you find a new happiness with someone else because you deserve it. you inspire me to move on and get over things ...I am trying because it is people like you that help others without knowing it...thankyou for sharing your feelings and waht must have been a very painful time.

[Passion]

The most painful time as of yet. I still search my ring finger for my ring as that was a habit of mine. Now I don't have it but I'll buy myself a promise ring to replace it as a reminder that I can't let anybody step on me like he did. It will be a promise to myself.

[happy ending]

it just takes time honey, i was where you are two years ago, i bet you cry every day, wake up in the middle of the night unable to sleep with misery, have a sick feeling in your stomach almost all the time. then one day you forget for a while and then it does get better, your doing well.

[elsa_niloo]

huh, wedding bands

You deserve better than to wear his wedding band. Goodbye unfaithful, ungreatful guy and say hello to the new stud who is gonna walk into your life, sweep you off your feet and show you the real meaning of love and partnership.

You are young, sweet and full of passion, it will be no time before you meet Mr. Right and get to wear his wedding band which will be worth thousand times better than your ex husbands.

the sooner you let go, the sooner you'll find peace and you will walk into your new life and meet a man.

wishing you the best