[pandabear38]

Hi everyone,
I would be so gratefull if someone could give me some advice. I have been married three years. When i got married i knew that my husbands family did not really think i was good enough for him i could sense this. when we got married my husbands father said to him was he sure he was doing the right thing.
They are very wealthy and fell out with my husbands brother because they did not approve of his wife and missed out on grandchildren they are now speeking that he is getting a divorce.
I have since found out that other people in the community know they do not approve of me an think i am good enough this hurts me so much. I find it very hard to interact with his family and would like advice. I have been invited out by his husbands family but feel very uncomfortable i keep thinking how dare they tell others this then be so two faced. Can anyone advise me how to deal with this
many thanks
pandabearx

[sofine85]

i am in a similiar situation....how i look at it is...i married my husband because i love him... and he loves me....as long as his parents do not disrespect me everything cool...if you worry about them not liking you it will transfer into the realtionship you and your husband have. just concentrate on making your marriage work. You know who you are and you know why he loves you...

[sourpuss]

I agree with sofine but would like to add that your husband should really be the one worrying about this and not you. Has he confronted them about it? The way I look at it, once you are married, your 1st and foremost loyalty is to your partner. If someone is out gossiping and disrespecting your partner, that doesn't fly, family or not. Especially if it's family I think. I would never allow my parents to speak poorly of my partner to people in the community. If they had a problem with you they should have voiced their opinion (and that's all it is- an opinion) before you were married. "....speak now or forever hold your peace." Right?