[elsa_niloo]

for married and long term couples only please.

This might sound kinda dumb to some experienced people but i am sort of new to this and really don't know what to think.
you know when you watch sexual scenes between couples in movies and they are filled with passion and the couple are all sweaty, having passionate sex, and then afterwards they are all nicely covered in bed sheets and just fall sleep real?
I mean every time we have sex it involves lots of cleaning afterwards andpretty much doing other things, plus my husband claims that is just in movies that people can have sex like that.
this may sound kind of personal so forgive me for asking, do you guys ever have the kind of sex where the guy just drops everything and has passionate sex and after wards they just lie in each other's arms?

what i'm trying to ask is, are sexual scenes in movies overdone?
have i just been shaped to expect alot out of sex, or is sex just a routine act that people do to balance their hormones?

i would really appreciate if someone answers this truthfully.

[torn2pieces]

for married and long term couples only please.

This might sound kinda dumb to some experienced people but i am sort of new to this and really don't know what to think.
you know when you watch sexual scenes between couples in movies and they are filled with passion and the couple are all sweaty, having passionate sex, and then afterwards they are all nicely covered in bed sheets and just fall sleep real?
I mean every time we have sex it involves lots of cleaning afterwards andpretty much doing other things, plus my husband claims that is just in movies that people can have sex like that.
this may sound kind of personal so forgive me for asking, do you guys ever have the kind of sex where the guy just drops everything and has passionate sex and after wards they just lie in each other's arms?

what i'm trying to ask is, are sexual scenes in movies overdone?
have i just been shaped to expect alot out of sex, or is sex just a routine act that people do to balance their hormones?

i would really appreciate if someone answers this truthfully.

First off I have I have been fooled by Soap Opera "undying love", I watched Soaps all the time when I was little and have always expected love to be like that.

My significant other and I have different types of sex: sometimes it gets sweaty but that is when we are going harder than usual, and the best (to me atleast) we have what I would call passionate sex, we look in each others eyes, we talk mad love talk, we hold each other (during sex). No matter what kind of sex we have it usually involves grabbing a towel afterwards and wiping up and occasionally when we are both EXHAUSTED, we don't even get a towel, but it's not the cleanest. Maybe it depends on the person, cause I will have sex with my SO anytime, I've been dressed ready to walk out the door for work and take off my pants so we can have a quick bit of fun. My cousin used to say she hated morning sex because of the clean up. She would be irritiated by sex cause she felt she had to take a shower before and after.

[withered_rose]

I guess it really depends on how things are between the two of you, I have had that before, but it doesnt happen very often for us. I do think that it is exaggerated by the movies and the soap operas about everything but there is a way to have passionate sex. I know that with my fiance and I we do have great sex but sometimes are much better than others. It just really depends on whats going on in our lives. we have been together for over 2 years now and we will be getting married in july and there has never been a dull moment with us. Yes its nice to cuddle after sex it has to do with hormones that are being released after sex, but unfortuntely many of us have so many other things to do. There are some nights where there is no sex at all we just want to cuddle, so yes it is possible but laying in bed after just having mad passionate sex is a little gross, so I would say get up and clean up a little bit and go back to bed and just lay there with each other.

[rcoreyus]

Well, as I've posted before, my wife and I don't have sex often. When we do though, we often fall asleep (or at least doze) in each other's arms afterwards. We can wash ourselves and the sheets the next morning.

I've only been with one other woman (ages ago, before I was dating my wife), and we also made love and fell asleep in each other's arms. It was sort of movie-style she was as excited as I was and it was pretty wild. But we had nothing else in common and we parted on good terms. She is happily married now with a couple of kids - haven't heard from her in nearly ten years.

Right now, if my wife wanted, I'd drop everything and make love to her on the spot (or sofa or kitchen table or whatever else was handy), but she never asks.

[rcoreyus]

I realized that my last post might have implied that I prefered sex with that long ago lover to my wife, which is absolutely not the case. I wish my wife were a bit more active / excited by sex, but it is still very very good (when it happens).

[Hopeless Dork]

Sometimes we lay there holding each other for a long time before one of us gets up or falls asleep, other times we get cleaned up a bit then come back and hold each other.

In Movies, they go through so many takes to make it look just right and since they are not focused on their own sexual pleasure, the faces and sounds they make are theatrical, not primal like in true passionate sex. The sex I see performed in movies, I view it like a choreographed dance routine because that is basically what it is.

[elsa_niloo]

so i guess my husband is right on some stuff and that sex in movies IS exagerated.
thanx guys

as for you rcoreyus, you have nothing to worry about and forget about what anyone will think. Unfortunately i have not had any partner than my husband so i don't know what sex with another person is like, and you do. so be happy.

its just that my husband and I are very much in love like movies and makeout and cuddle sometimes but sex is never as passionate as movies, but i guess this thread made me realize that sex scenes are overdone and I shouldn't expect much.
I only wish that we would have sex more often, even though it can't be as passionate.

Loving someone who is not interested in sex often is a CURSE. It's like being at a buffet but being allergic to every item. HEHEHEH

[Steph33]

After sex my BF wants me to lay on my side facing him, his leg goes between mine with his upper thigh against my sweet spot, his face is at my chest, and he runs his hands along my leg, thigh, and ribs while I just talk to him about anything. We do all kinds of stuff during sex and he never demands any particular sex thing, though he only gets fully erect and ready to release if he can give me oral.

But that "lay-on-side" thing is a must if I want him to feel post-sex happy and wanted as my man only AFTER sex. Even when we don't have sex, that's the position he likes to talk in when we're in bed. It's a major thing for him and we've talked a couple hours like that and he's never tired of it since day one. He's said it makes him feel like I own just him and only want just him. If he gets up way to early in the morning and I want him to stay in bed with me, putting him in that position is how I "make" him stay. Even though by morning that same position gets him excited and he wants me again.

If we make love on the floor (more length room than our bed) we wants to lay between my legs with his head on my stomach just above my bikini line. He'll bend one leg so he can stroke my outer thigh. It's the same reasons and feelings for him. I just run my fingers through his hair and talk, he's more happy there than our cats are on the sofa

I'm not sure why, but he's always loved my voice and likes to listen to me just talk, even I just babble about something. In these positions and times he doesn't say much except "I love you baby (or Steph, or Princess)" or tells me how much he loves some part of my body that particular time (can be any part and varies by the moment).

We both love sex. But I think if I gave him the choice between doing this post-sex thing and no sex or just sex and forget the laying together stuff, he'd pick this over sex the majority of the time. I feel both love and passion.

The other kind is passion with lust, when he's all over me and wants constant deep kissing after visiting some part of my body and coming back to being face-to-face. He talks (unless giving me oral) or moans almost constantly in that part of sex. Hearing that makes me want him a LOT.

I can't remember seeing a movie where I believed or felt all these things (especially the look on my BFs face) between 2 people.