[sourpuss]

Hey Sourpuss! Thank you soooo much for your reply! i would never give my baby up for adoption she wasnt a mistake or anything like that and i love her like crazy ! the only help i have right now is my mother i need to get some help from somewhere else! I am scared because he threated me if i get with someone else when the baby is born he said he will take her away from me! is that possible? i told him he wont ever see the baby and wont even know when she is born! he said he will accuse me for kidnapping because its illegal what im going to do! Can u help me i dont know what to do!

He can't take your baby. Ever. Don't even worry about that. One thing you may want to do though is start keeping a journal of everything he's saying to you just to keep a record if you need it later.

Stay strong and lean on your mom, you need her right now. You'll get through this.

[suzy21]

Hey Lulu! Your are right my baby should be the number one issue right now specially due to being in a high risk pregnancy... I am in alot of stress right now which is not good at all!!! I reall do want to give him a chance but im scared he will do it again, i told him that i will give us another chance if we go see a therapist but he doesnt want to he said he doesnt have insurance so i dont know what to do... I want to get married but i know he doesnt want to i mean we were engage but we didnt have a date because he lost his job and has no money right now so he said he wanted to get his "" together and i guess what he wants its to move in i dont think he wants to get married everytime i talked about it he said we fight to much... I really want my baby to have a family like you said a stable home with her two parents something i didnt have... Thank you so much for your reply!!!!! Please write back to me is you read my reply!!!

[sourpuss]

Do not marry this man.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Don't even consider him at this point in time, you are in a high risk pregnancy and don't need any stress.

Just relax and stay with your Mum and talk with her, you would be suprised at how much of a "girlfriend" mum's can be and tell her everything that has panned out and ask her what she thinks.

Everyone says they can "change", but a threat, leads into another and another, and another, when one does not get their way, and wishes to continue to CONTROL.....

CW

[Lulu]

I think my concern would be has he ever threatened you physically? Just how abusive is this relationship and you need to be honest with yourself here? If its only the PC stuff that you are concerned with I would say spending as long as he does each day that he has some kind of addiction possibly to porn. Why did he lose his job and is he looking for work now? You have to the the grownup in this relationship and I know thats tough because you are still so young. Are you a church goer in which case you could talk to your parish priest??