[mlsh]

well i have been their before but the only thing was how i knew that my husband was cheating was he would come home and start an fuss with me and then get dress and leave. so one night he told me that he was going out and i told him ok so about one in the moring i get an call from my cousin and he is out in the opening with this ......and they started fussing and she let me hear and i got out of my bed and by the time i pull out of my drive way he was pullling up and get out the car let me explain and i told him no now he has done it so much until i think that he his still doing it and when i ask him for his phone he gets mad so what do i think

and the thing about it the girl that i was messing with is the good girl in her mother's and her family eye sight but they couldn't belive that she was messing with a marry man but one night we was at a night club and she didn't stop until she came over thier where my and my friends and our husband was so she didn't stop until she came close to him and that when i hit her but now she know who to play with and i also hit him to

could someone help me with this i really love my husband but i don't know where this is going in the long run i really don't know what to do i really don't i haven't had a drink in two years and now i have started drinking alot lately and i really don't know what to do with this marriage

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hi mlsh,


Transferred your posts to your own thread for readers so they can help you.

CW

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Don't start drinking sweet, just because of his in-morals and non-respect for you because that is what he is, a disrespectful man without morals and he knows what has happened, what he has done, yet he lets you drink "alot" and even there, doesn't care.

Are you close to your family?

Do you have good friends you can turn to and talk to and maybe stay with for a while?

CW

[WildChild]

I can understand your frustraton and wanting to lash out but hitting people isn't a good solution and can get you in trouble. I'll second CW here, don't start drinking it will only make things worse and he might use it as a justification for his behavior.

Can you talk with him calmly? Let him know this is unacceptable? Do you have kids?

[HALFNOTHING]

Try to lay low.. focus on things you want to do but don't ever drink.. drinking won't help at all.. hangout with friends and don't mind him but, don't forget your focus that you want to caught him up.. investigate like you don't care.. after having the proofs, go get the his things and throw him outside the door.

[WildChild]

Marriage counseling may be a good place to start. Even if he won't go, you go. They can give you some insight, things to try and a neutral person to talk with.