[golden_nemesis]

That's a good idea about letting him select his own bed or maybe even just special bedding would work. I don't see the problem with his dad sleeping in his bed with him though. If it makes him feel safe and secure, what is honestly the harm?

If he is only visiting some of the time, its not that big of an issue. But if the boy is living with them full-time, well, I would hate not to ever be able to sleep with my partner. It is a great bond strengthener. And to be good parents, they need to feel bonded. Plus, for me, sex is a very important part of keeping a healthy relationship. Sex is hard when you are either sleeping with a small child in the bed or alone. Also, I like to sleep naked, always have.

I am just too used to my own and my sisters's upbringing. We were taught to be pretty independent, and to believe that no means no. Every family works differently, I certainly understand that. I think I identify with the OP because she sounds like she has similar beliefs of child rearing and relationships as I do.