[imported_kaylar]

Just as you can not prevent a hurricane, you can not
prevent adultery; however, you can mitigate your damage.

When a man is unfaithful his wife will often say;
"My WHOLE WORLD has ended."

Not 'my marriage', not my 'confidence to read character',
but MY WHOLE WORLD.

This is because women commit themselves to marriage.
Women will 'work' at a marriage, women will do everything
they can to 'maintain' a marriage.

For many women, their marriage is the most important
thing in their lives. Not their career, not even their
family, but their marriage.

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Mitigation


A man can't take any more than you've given him
when he leaves. Hence, if you've made him the
centre of your life, he will take your whole world
when he leaves.

By never giving a man that power over you,
you will never be in a position of losing your
'Whole World' when he leaves.

Hence, before you walk down that aisle,
or move in with him, 'buy' your adultery
insurance.

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Adultery Insurance I


1. Never give up your family for a man


In 85% of the cases where a woman left her
disapproving family for a man, the marriage
has not merely collapsed, but so has her life.

She has no where to go back to. She has either
to suffer or virtually walk into the night with
only the clothes on her back.

Men who marry women, knowing that their family
will disown them, know they have gotten carte blanche.
Know that their wives will have to put up with anything
because they have no where to go.

These marriage rarely work.

They rarely work because there is too much of a
burden placed on them. Because the husband is
the only other person in the wife's life.

Unless you have a very strong web of other
relatives, friends, etc. Do not enter into a marriage
in which it will be you against the world.

The world win.

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Adultery Insurance Ii


2. Never give up your dreams


Once you give up on your life and put on
his, you will find that one size does not
fit all.

You will find yourself a stranger in your
own life.

Sure, maybe the first months it's all
new and pleasant and you try to fill
yourself with his dreams and goals,
but in a short time you will find yourself
looking into space, wondering what
happened to you.

As you have no life, and he does, he
has the handle, you have the blade.

He can lock you out, or let you in,
he can drag you where he wants to
go, or leave you home alone.

There are no alternatives.
You gave up your dreams.

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Adultery Insurance Iii

3. DON'T QUIT YOUR DAY JOB

Having a job and your own money can never be
over estimated. Simply being able to have your
own bank account gives you an incrediable feeling
of freedom.

The more money you have in your own name,
the greater your existence outside of marriage,
the more likely your marriage will work.

When you have a job he can not control how
money is spent. He can not make demands
you must follow. You are not living at his
sufferance, so that if he feels like not buying
food this week to 'punish' you, it falls flat.

Having a job gives you independance and boosts
your ego. You aren't just Mrs. Man, you are
someone in your own right.

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Adultery Insurance Iv

4. Be Part of a.....

Before you were married you obviously had some
interests. Maybe you belonged to clubs, had
hobbies, participated in functions...don't drop
them because of marriage.

Yes, if you want, cut down.
Don't be President of a group, don't take on
major projects, cut down your attendance at
functions, but never quit.

Always maintain a circle of interests outside of
your husband. The more you define yourself
the less he can define you. The less he has
control over you.

The woman who sits at home, because she
has quit her job, dropped out of her clubs,
given up on her hobbies is the most likely
to be brutalised, betrayed, and dumped.

This is because it is so easy to do.
And because no one like as clinging vine,
no man can put up with the little appendage
wife very long.

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Adultery Insurance V


5. Plan for the Possibility

Just as you buy life insurance, not
expecting to soon be a widow, you
'buy' adultery insurance, just in case.

Thinking it won't happen to you
is jumping out of a plane without
a parachute.

Having the possibility somewhere in
your mind, is like carrying a needle
and thread when you go out, just
in case...

Adultery Insurance has a number of
aspects.

The first, and most important one, is
to never segregate yourself from society.
Never be alone.

Always have friends and family in your life.

The second and only slightly less vital, is
to have a job/career/place to be where
you can take your mind off of yourself
as Mrs. Him, and you are Ms. In Charge

Along with this are the hobbies, the commitments
the other things to do besides waiting for him
if/when he comes home, and putting your life
in his hands, and, by extention, his gal's hands.

The day after you marry is the day you start
to decrease his focus in your life.

Friends,family are very important for this.
Job, of course, but all those stray things...
the clubs you belong to, the games you
play, the visits you make, all of these things
should regain a place in your life before you
met him.

You have to remain a vibrant living being,
not just the female who is there for him.

The women who hurt the most in adultery
are those picture perfect wives who are
either homemakers or mothers, or have
jobettes, and the purpose of their lives
is to please him.

Never demean yourself like that.

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The Fine Print


Traditional advice has always been that a woman
submerge herself in her husband. That she dedicate
herself to being a home maker, and to working at
her marriage.

The belief has been that it is only the bad wife
who is betrayed. The wife who doesn't have
time for her husband, the wife who is never
there for him.

Facts blow this assumption into dreamland.

More stay at home wives, more 'marriage workers'
are betrayed than those vibrant busy women.

More dedicated wives lose their WHOLE WORLD...
for the busy executive wife can't lose more than
her marriage.. for he is not her whole world.

And although the pain may be just as bad,
she is not alone with no one and nothing to
do but wallow in it; she has people depending
on her, places to go, and her personal life
need be shelved until such time as it can
be managed.

[Perfect10]

Wow! Thats pretty powerful and makes sense! Thank you for that!

[WildChild]

Thank you for finding that. Usually I find bringing up the old stuff kind of annoying but this one is a treasure.