[LanaBear]

Also can I add that since he doesn't "remember" what happens when he is drunk I would SOOO take advantage of that...which means you don't remember having the candle thrown at you! You don't remember being hit upside the head with the empty plastic pail (only because it still hurts but doesn't leave marks) .. that means he won't remember when you beat him with the broom (sweep his feet its a very bad thing! then sweep the dirt out of the house!) ....He wouldn't remember having his beer switched with hot sauce and pee!!! I would beat him with a belt and when he woke up tell him he came home like that!!!!

OMG Ahryin! You evil little creature! Hot sauce and pee. LOL

On another note - yeah - he's not "remembering" because then he would have to change. He doesn't want to change, it's convenient for him. You are keeping a roof over his head, bills are being paid, why should he change. He needs a HUGE wake up call.

[catlover]

Thanks for all of the support and laughs. You are all so right and it gives me strength to push forward. The hot sauce and pee is at the top of my list, my goodness that was a belly laugh.

[Ahryin]

see..thats why I love this site when I say things like that everyone thinks I'm playing

[Ahryin]

Also..I stated before I would strap him to the chair and force him to watch the video's ...I would be playing I'm every woman in the background the one by Chaka Khan...VERY LOUDLY!!!!

[Empty]

I have watched my mom go through this with my stepfather for almost 12 years, it gets to her all the time. He does drink every day after he gets home from work, and when he's at work he's the perfect professional, only few know of his faults. Over the past few years my mom has learned a few tricks, sometimes she'll walk out and go for a car ride, or basically go hide in another room until he's done with his ranting, the house is pretty big so it would take him a while to find her lol. None of us kids are in the home anymore so obviously he directs everything towards her. Now since this has been going on forever, we decided a long time ago to name that drunking nasty personality, we call him chucky when he's like that. So usually the next day when she wakes up, she goes downstairs, calls him chucky, and makes him feel like the scum of the earth. And of course the apologies start. Now she goes right back at him, it has been happening less frequently over the years. Sometimes, go right back at him, call him things that you never thought would come out of his mouth. Turn it around on him, things will change, maybe not quickly and maybe it wont go away forever but it's a start.

[Mustang Sally]

In some states it does not matter whos name something is in, it would be considered community property after you have been married for a certain number of years. You need to check about the house before you do anything rash. I would have him removed. If you leave, he might get to keep the house as considered abandiment. Making a tape would be a good idea for an attorney to see. Great evidence.