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[Little]

If I had doubts he's bi? Nah. If I had doubts he's gay? Oh yes, I'd wait. And if I had sex issues with him on TOP of that? Full stop.
Some delusional people who don't want to believe they're gay use their marriages to women as "beards." A girl I knew from high school believes her (now ex) husband is gay, and they reportedly had great sex before marriage ... and none afterwards.
If sex is important to you (and I assume it is) then do not marry him hoping things will change. In fact, you can replace "sex" with anything in that sentence. Fix it first.

[WildChild]

I agree with Little. Few things get better with marriage. Marriage should be a seal on what is already good not an atempt to make anything better.

[LanaBear]

Marriage should be a seal on what is already good not an attempt to make anything better.

That's perfect!

But yeah - I too agree with WC and Little. Already having sex issues on top of your other concerns... Nope, it needs to be fixed before it can proceed.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

He's emotionally cheated.
He doesn't have sex with you bar once a week.
You give in that department without receiving.
He sulks.
He won't communicate when you bring something up.
He's almost "forcing marriage" making you make your mind up now.
You have a gut feeling, intuition he may be bi/gay.
He doesn't even go ape over the suggestion just sulks/ignores.

If that's not enough red flags, not to get married I am not sure what would convince you.

I agree with the above posters...

CW

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[WildChild]

Why are you POd? It sounds like he has realized that this may not be the best thing for either of you. This just may be the best thing for you, you can walk away knowing you tried and that it just wasn't going to work for you. There's been lack of emotional commitment, lack of sex, concerns over his sexuality. You gave it a good try, focus on you for a while, have some fun and see what happens in your life?

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[Little]

He's trying to guilt you into agreeing to a wedding, most likely.
Think about it. He whines, complains, wheedles that you don't love him until you agree to put that ring on. Because if you won't, you clearly DON'T love him like he loves you. He's seeing if you will react to his manipulation.
Don't.
And if he is actually hiding (from himself, not only others) that he is gay, he's definitely trying to force you into marriage. To prove to himself and his family that he "can't be gay" because he's married to you.
Take this as the be-all, end-all sign that he's not the one. You posted this thread and BAM he's sent this text? Does he know about WH? That could add a whole 'nother facet to it too.
Good luck. You have hard decisions ahead of you. WH is always here for you (barring GoDaddy mishaps) and we'll always support you doing what is healthy for your life!

[Guest]

Few things get better with marriage. Marriage should be a seal on what is already good not an atempt to make anything better.

Couldn't have said it better.