[maggieanne]

My advice for what its worth:

Before you overthink this situation anymore you just need to confront him. Gather your thoughts and have a glass of wine to calm your nerves.

To avoid him thinking that you are untrusting you must simply say it like it is. Start with the most substantial evidence...like the jewelry. Things that are solid are extremely difficult to make up lies for. Then you can add the suspicions and explain that the first few things were no big deal and then things came together in your head.

Women often deny themselves the right to confront their partner when they suspect cheating is going on because they fear that if they're wrong, their partner will get angry and then they'll have created an entirely new problem for their relationship. Remember though, that if your man loves you he'll appreciate you coming to him with this issue instead of enduring this "coincindence" quietly. He'll probably be slightly offended, but as long as you talk to him calmly and genuinely it will go better than you think.

All the best,

Maggie Anne

[mdawn]

no idea

I was recently told by a person who has a bad reputation for lying about sleeping with men that she had sex with my hubby. When I asked her specific questions about him like tattoos, scars, birthmarks, etc....she absolutely could not tell me anything about him. He has all of the above from the waist down. I know women have intuition about things like this and mine tells me that nothing has happened. Plus hubby has witnesses saying he did nothing. This woman as she would like to be called has said things about other men that we know and we both know it is not true. So what could she be up too? I have no idea if she gets a thrill from this or what is going on with her. Like I told her, I dont believe anything she has said due to the fact that I know her past. Someone please help me out. Plus I would think that if hubby had cheated with her, his attitude would have changed with me but nothing has changed. We do the same things we have always done and our relationship is the same. So go figure. But my gut instinct is that he did absolutely nothing with her and she is just saying things to cause trouble. Thanks so much for listening.

[talk time]

well it sounds like you want to believe him and this 'women' isn't very credable. My advice for all it's worth is go with your gut but file this info. away in your mind, don't completely forget about it. If other things come up and there are inconsistences revisit this then.

If he did cheat, and i'm not for one minute saying he did, you don't want him in your life anyway. tt

[Inconsistent]

Does he seem high?

Could be drugs, too.

[mdawn]

doing okay

okay i just posted on here yesterday that i was told hubby cheated on me. well, i went yesterday without him knowing it and ask all the ppl he said were the witnesses. two were kids and two were adults and all have told me that not a thing happened like the other woman was saying. they told me the same story hubby told me. this tale started like 3 weeks ago and i just found it out friday. i dont think all 5 could concoct the same story and the two kids actually stick to it without someone lying to me. so i am guessing that not a thing happened like she said. like I said, I asked some pretty specific questions when i talked to her about him and she could not tell me anything other than we had sex. so I am gonna go with my gut instict and say he did nothing wrong. It is just woman who is so hard up for a man she would do it to anyone. She always told me before she would love to have my house and the things that I have. So I guess just chalk it up someone who is desperate. But she already knows she is gonna get her butt whooped for telling lies so maybe it will learn who before she does it again and causes someone to kill someone over it.

Did I do the right things here or did I go overboard. someone comment back and let me know. Thanks again for listening.