[CHANDLERS WISH]

Wow.

I didn't write any of that except the first sentence. And if people could have had the option of reading the rest of my original words, that first sentence wouldn't have seemed so "insensitive." Because indeed...he was using the analogy to cover up an insecurity of his own. And he has a very understanding partner.

Interesting that you leave the part in you find offensive, but take the part out that wouldn't seem so biting.

Unreal.

It will be altered OTYA, back to your original line, and the reply made by Hopless Dork, to you as not to look like you wrote that. Accidential I am sure.

CW

[Hopeless Dork]

I quoted you in a post of my own... that I was making... how it ended up editing and doing it there was obviously an accident.

Unreal is you immediately thinking that we go around changing things willy nillly... has that ever happened before?

Benefit of the doubt.

[Hopeless Dork]

Wow.

I didn't write any of that except the first sentence. And if people could have had the option of reading the rest of my original words, that first sentence wouldn't have seemed so "insensitive." Because indeed...he was using the analogy to cover up an insecurity of his own. And he has a very understanding partner.

Interesting that you leave the part in you find offensive, but take the part out that wouldn't seem so biting.

Unreal.

I was quoting the part I was responding to and some how ended up editing the post, has never happened before and was a complete accident... my response was this :

Valid point or not, reffering to affection as slab of dead (yet savory!) meat one becomes tired of is pretty insensitive. But I doubt he meant it as insensitive as it came across.

I am sure it was more a case of he was tired in general than tired of you...some guys are embarrased about being tired or not in the mood for sex since that is such a manly man thing to be on all the time and having energy so he probably just said oh I don't want it to get boring doing it all the time rather than the 'good grief i need to catch my breath' he probably meant

If you have more energy than him, let him know its okay that he kisses you passionatly it doesn't have to lead to sex... etc... that even if he tires easy, it doesn't take much energy to snuggle...

And for most women, even if they are horny and in the mood -- if their SO doesn't want sex, the lady be more than happy with some good old fashion affection/intimacy over the cold shoulder and being compared to a stale t-bone.

I meant to quote that sentence you wrote and respond underneath it with that. of all the debates around here do you really think I'd change your words on purpose. Ugh.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I talk with him about everything that I am bothered with. I did talk to him a couple mins ago I said I was hurt and.. he said he didnt mean it like that.. he just..bla bla.. well I did slap him around.. and he actually let me do it.. I guess we're even.. I kind of dont blame him.. I am very active.. He's old.. I think I tire him . I just told him that if he does that again.. I probably wont be kissing him anymore .. well we had a make-up session so.. I think I'm good...

I don't know how much "older is, older", but if he's having problems then it's his "defence".

He obviously had problems that night when you were kissing him and often people say things in defence, to get out of something.

Still, as you can see, the words hurt you and we didn't really like it either, there are other ways to express, non interest at that time, than saying that.

Alot of things can cause a problem with "getting it up". Stress as one, and you being young and viviacious, sexual can be another, stage fright even, still can't believe he has this wicked woman

If it keeps occuring, tell him to go to the Doctors and get tested...

Glad that you can communicate and that he's aware that he hurt your feelings.


CW