[1teacher]

How do you guys feel about this? Do you think it's okay? Do I have a right to be ****ed?

[Sprite]

Yes of course you have the right to! Whether you are pregnant or not, it's still not right.
Have you spoken to him about this? How often does he do it? Bit more detail would be great

[KMonte85]

If he's having a guy's night every once in a while, I don't see that it is a big deal. We all need some time to go out with our friends without the SO.

But, if he's going out all the time or acting inappropriately while he's out at the club, then yeah, there is a problem and it is understandable that you would be upset...


As Nix said above, some more details about the situation would help!

[Guest]

well first off, have you discussed it with him? kinda hard to be really upset with him if you never mentioned it to him before.

even then, once in awhile isnt a bad thing. we do need time away from each other now and then. but that also depends on what he does when he goes out.

[danceintx]

I think a night out with the guys every once in awhile is ok. But regularly clubbing would be pretty disrespectful without you. Women feel very vunerable while they are pregnant for good reasons. He should be considerate of you.

[LanaBear]

I agree with dance... If it is a random night out, okay, regularly going out, no.

I'm not sold on the whole clubbing thing while the pregnant SO is at home. I'd be okay with a guys night at the sports bar or something, but probably not clubbing.

But with all that said, it would have to be completely respectful too, going to BS with the boys after work, etc. Going to stare, drool and flirt at the other women there, totally not okay!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You don't say whether before you were pregnant, whether you both went out, clubbing or had a social life, that also involved alchohol.

Your pregnant so you can't... So, if it was part of a pattern before, then he is just doing what he was previously doing, without you.

I can't visualise that he "all of a sudden" has started to go out clubbing, now that your pregnant... If so, then you have to ask him why all of a sudden he wants to do this when he never did it before.

Your question is vary vague and so you will receive many varied answers I believe until you elaborate more.

CW

[1teacher]

More details

Yeah we did go out together before hand as well. He was terrible about it at the beginning of my pregnancy and I think he realized when I sat down and talked with him that I was at a breaking point so the past month or so he has been ok. I have had trust issues with him in the past that is my main concern with him going out alone. He doesnt go out with the guys just him. I know where he goes because when he gets home hes usually tipsy and has the reciepts from where he got drinks and so forth or I just look online. After our talk it helped a little and I am hoping he continues the pattern the last 3 months of my pregnancy.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well, he's not changing a pattern your pregnancy is...

You both used to go out and he's just doing what he used to do.

It's good that he understands that you are pregnant and can't go out clubbing with him and your at breaking point because in reality, "your life has changed" where as in reality until the baby is born his hasn't. It's good that he's more understanding.

Ok, so he has cheated in the past and therefore, you snoop lots You do know that this will esculate your fears... What would you do if he did again? If he did again, it will happen and you will find it out anyway. Try not to snoop, your pregnant and your hormones will be different than when you weren't.. You need to be stress free at present...

I think it's good that he's not "rolling drunk" rather tipsy...

You have 3 months to go, relax sweetness and understand your life has changed and for you both in 3 months time both of your lives will change, point that out to him, your not bringing a child up on your own, your both bringing a child up so his party days needs to be lesser now because you don't need the stress and once the baby is born because you need the family unity and him there to be with you through this exciting time.

But, stop snooping It will get at you ...

CW

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Well, he's not exactly going to be free to go clubbing once he's got a little fleshy ball and chain to look after.

Probably just getting it out of his system - fair enough.