husband left me and my son
my husband of 15 years, (together 8, married 7) left me and my son on Nov 8th, worst of all when we were supposed to be at my son's birthday party together. We were having issues, and a huge argument the night before. He called saying he wanted to be at the party and basically wanted to be in my life, and what he did was cleared his belongings out of the house while I tended to my son's party. My son was very hurt by this.
I wanted answers, but he never wanted to talk anywhere but on the phone. Not only did he take his stuff, but bank statements, bill statements, not too mention cleared out the bank acct, and then he could not imagine why I was upset that he took the money I had saved for christmas. The part that he racked up my credit card to 4000.00 practically sent me over the edge, as 900.00 of this was when he was gone. I never was able to use it. He had control of it. He also had a money stash.
We had to go to the courts to get custody arrangments, I filed. He never called or saw my son for christmas.
He now has an apartment, divorce papers were served about two weeks after e left.
I am having a hard time with this emotional hurt I feel and am worried for my son, as he never wants to talk about what happened. When we do talk, I get acused of being controlling, or judging him. His answer is that is the past. Well, I need answers to this, so I can cope.
As I look back, I feel there were always emotional issues, ie. never wanting to get married, kids, could not be with me etc.. and that was what I was picking up on this past year, never wanting to talk, be intimate for fear of other children, not coming home from work when his shift was over.
He tells me he wants to enjoy his life, there is no other woman, or interest. It is like the last 15 years were like dust on his shoes, wiped off and moved on.
What makes it even more suspicious and confusing, is that were are communicating and then he turns it off and becomes distance and his eyes look like through me, or he wants a hug and then when I look over, he has this smirk/smile on his face and then the hurt comes all flooding back because I feel I am being played.
Now, what makes me even more suspicious, is that when I ask him how his day was, or what was for supper, He has to think about it before he answers.
I just can't deal with the lack of remorse on his part. How do I get past this hurt?
All, he wants to talk about is the divorce, so that makes me suspicious there is someone else. He keeps saying it is about money, he is broke. Well, so am I as I am left with triple bills, a credit card debt because of him, and a feeling of extreme betrayal.
any thoughts and support would be apreciated
I wanted answers, but he never wanted to talk anywhere but on the phone. Not only did he take his stuff, but bank statements, bill statements, not too mention cleared out the bank acct, and then he could not imagine why I was upset that he took the money I had saved for christmas. The part that he racked up my credit card to 4000.00 practically sent me over the edge, as 900.00 of this was when he was gone. I never was able to use it. He had control of it. He also had a money stash.
We had to go to the courts to get custody arrangments, I filed. He never called or saw my son for christmas.
He now has an apartment, divorce papers were served about two weeks after e left.
I am having a hard time with this emotional hurt I feel and am worried for my son, as he never wants to talk about what happened. When we do talk, I get acused of being controlling, or judging him. His answer is that is the past. Well, I need answers to this, so I can cope.
As I look back, I feel there were always emotional issues, ie. never wanting to get married, kids, could not be with me etc.. and that was what I was picking up on this past year, never wanting to talk, be intimate for fear of other children, not coming home from work when his shift was over.
He tells me he wants to enjoy his life, there is no other woman, or interest. It is like the last 15 years were like dust on his shoes, wiped off and moved on.
What makes it even more suspicious and confusing, is that were are communicating and then he turns it off and becomes distance and his eyes look like through me, or he wants a hug and then when I look over, he has this smirk/smile on his face and then the hurt comes all flooding back because I feel I am being played.
Now, what makes me even more suspicious, is that when I ask him how his day was, or what was for supper, He has to think about it before he answers.
I just can't deal with the lack of remorse on his part. How do I get past this hurt?
All, he wants to talk about is the divorce, so that makes me suspicious there is someone else. He keeps saying it is about money, he is broke. Well, so am I as I am left with triple bills, a credit card debt because of him, and a feeling of extreme betrayal.
any thoughts and support would be apreciated
thank you for your response and wisdom, ironic about divorce. He was just wants it done, like tomorrow. He did mention though that he would sign his half of the house over to me. I keep getting told he has his inheritance, time etc into it, but never about the 15 years we were together. I just wish I could get past this suspicious feeling I have all the time, like there is a hidden agenda.
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