[abandoned]

my husband of 15 years ran out on me last tuesday. i was not only his wife but his carer( he had been unwell).i had an inkling it was on the cards.we had been rowing recently.he suddenly packed his bags and left saying some really nasty stuff.He emptied the joint bank account and dissapeared.i,m devasted,angry and lost.He has left me with bills rent and animals to feed. i cant get my head round this. i know he wont come back and that its over but....i,m totally alone for the first time and just dont know where to turn for help

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Welcome abandoned.

That's the first time someone has posted a separation without using the "Love" word and "why"?

A loveless marriage with constant bickering has to result in an end.

If you need closure, look back seriously at those fights, you say you were a wife and a carer as if, perhaps, he owes you. But, I get the feeling that, that is what angers you, that you did it because you had to as a wife, not through love.

Correct me if wrong. But, I'm saying, maybe you weren't happy either.

Maybe you wanted more out of this marriage as well.

If he left taking "all" the money what does that say about him?

He's bitter, he's angry, and he doesn't care a hoot about you.

I would say good riddens to someone that nasty to leave you in financial debt. Your only renting. There is nothing there for you, ie) a house.. It's nasty.


I don't know how much was in that account but I would be speaking to a relative to relay to him, you have no money to feed the pets, yourself and that he needs to look at his conscious and return some of it to help you by for the time being.. Saying nothing else.

Look at the rest as "freedom" no more caring, no more fighting. Your free now to be who ever you want and to find that person who you deserve.

Do you have children? You only talk about pets, so I assume that if you do, they are not needing money from you.. So can you obtain work? As, you state you have bills, rent, and animals to feed.

It's now called survival and you have to look at every single option you can, to keep yourself safe and not fall into depression, further debt and loss of your home...

I'm sure he is angry too. No one takes all the money and runs after constant fighting unless through anger, in my opinion.

But, I would plea to his "nicer" side, via someone to help you in the interim maintaining your home.

And, speak to your creditors and see if they can assist with a smaller plan than what you are on.

And fight for yourself and find a way to make some income for now.

CW

[CHANDLERS WISH]

any other thoughts here?

[WildChild]

Can you file anything legally to recover some of the money? Who was earning the income? Any idea what prompted this?