[Fallen1]

Variety.

I'm sorry but that "excuse" just does not cut it with me. Variety is not needed ........ it's wanted and the way I feel about it is if you need/want variety then you have no business committing to one woman.


But that's just my opinion.

[Hopeless Dork]

You forgot number 5. To make women bitter.

Following that line of logic that must be the reason women use dildo's - to make men bitter

[Hopeless Dork]

I'm sorry but that "excuse" just does not cut it with me. Variety is not needed ........ it's wanted and the way I feel about it is if you need/want variety then you have no business committing to one woman.

lol I call BS on that one two.. Variety. Variety is another word for "I want my cake and eat it too". If you want variety, why commit? Variety means: sense of entitlement to everything under the sun, and what they can't physically obtain in real life -- porn provides. Tiger Woods had standard "I need variety' itis -- only difference is he had the money and the fame to obtain that level of variety, not just view it in porn.

A man is only as faithful as his options has been said as a joke.. but this whole zomg i needz teh varieties attitude makes me wonder if its true.

[rcoreyus]

Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

I think that well describes all the porn discussions on WH.

[Hopeless Dork]

Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

I think that well describes all the porn discussions on WH.

lol - touche, my dear rcoreyus, touche.

While it stirs up guts and emotions its always going to be a topic of conversation, especially among women... given that its a womans forum - I anticipate the weekly rate of women coming to forum with their tale of hurt feelings and being at a loss for how to deal with them will only increase, not decrease... sad to say.

And as they come in with their fresh wounds, old ones will be re-opened by people in the process of letting go of those pains. Its a vicious, fruitless circle.

But getting your feelings out of your chest and into the world can't be a bad thing. Sometimes I feel better after I say what I feel, I am sure its the same for others. Even if I know my view won't change the world, nor do I expect someones view to enlighten me and change my own on this topic. But communication, when handled respecting others feelings is conducted, can never be a bad thing.

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[Guest]

Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre
And voila. Same thing with me. I gave up porn and I'm enjoying a better sexual relationship too.

See? So it's 3 guys so far .

Here's the thing, though.

I gave up porn because I myself recognized the harm it was causing to my relationships.

Not because I had an emotionally overwrought wife/girlfriend pressuring me to do so. My significant other wasn't ever aware that I indulged....and if she was, she never mentioned anything.

It's often said that men marry women hoping that they will not change....

And women marrying men hoping that they will.

That's a disastrous proposition if there is indeed truth to it, and I think there may be.

Pressuring someone to change rarely turns out the way you want it to.
It may work in the short run, but until someone makes a commitment to themselves to change, it isn't likely that they will change for anyone else...regardless of who they are.

This is why I advocate finding significant other's that more closely represent your ideals in terms of sex and sexual fulfillment.

All the best.

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