[Joy]

sounds like you need a break from your problems and have some fun. your BF has a gambling addiction and this is probably the focus of most days. You need time for you and you need time for fun and to be light hearted.

[sarahlee20]

Should I stay or Him move?

I don't know what to do? I just don't think he understands me. I'm trying to beat into his head about maturity and responisabilty. Just afraid this isn't going to work out like i thought. For anyone to read my posts you know whats happening here. Now he doesn't like when i talk to guys on pogo as in only in a friendly manner. Manner as in how are you are you? Good luck on your game. He thinks i want someone else and i don't i just want him. What I am realizing he isn't what i thought. Should i just let my worries go and try to trust him or just walk away all together? This is really killing me inside.

[stressed]

Not only do you have the issues you have posted here but he also has issues himself. You are both bothered by each others' actions and don't understand each other. It doesn't work! If it was one or two things, you could have worked on them, but we're talking about character differences here, these will never change, there's an obvious huge amount of misunderstanding going on there and you are both losing your patience. You tried but it doesn't give any result.
Just your or him move out for a few days, just to try and see what happens. It doesn't have to happen right away if you both find it very difficult. But one of you has to move, this situation affects your lives in a larger scale.

[sarahlee20]

Unless you want to break up with someone ... soon, seperate bedrooms are not a good idea. Neither is walking around not talking to them and ignoring them. If you feel like you need some space it might be time to take up a hobby outside of the home, go visit friends a couple hours during the week ... or if a more drastic break is needed go visit out reletives for a few days.

If you feel like you are suffocating by their presense that is just not a good sign. And sarah, if you click on your home page... then view posts started by you, and read down that list -- you can see a list of grievences in a persepective that may reveal to you just how unhappy you actually are.

However... it could be that you are being entirely too introspective on your relationship which can be just as harmful as ignoring how you feel all together. I mean its very good to vent, but sometimes if you pick a person apart and look for flaws, oh golly they'll be there.

What bothers is the constant anxiety and worry of him being a gambler. and just seeing him not mature enough to take on mature resonpisablity and not taking some things on on his own..I need a man, and a mature relationship. I feel like i'm not getting one.

[WildChild]

Then get out of it.

[sarahlee20]

Either i'm too overanalizing everything or were not a true match

Am I too negative or introspective or ? I don't know...I know it's so easy to get out but once he's gone he's gone.He lives so far away

[Fallen1]

Then get out of it.

I second that.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

What seriously are your doubts? I think because you live together, you have a fear of being on your own and having to start again.

I think there are so many things your not happy with, that you know that therefore, it's time to go...

Why are you worrying about it ending and how far away he is? If he doesn't have what you are after in a man, then he's not the man.