[lizette]

i think that u should leave him because he is just using that as an excuse for him to be a nasty pig and for u to feel bad about ur self hes just a dumdass leave him.

[damd]

Another thread for Anon?





Don't ding me Admin, it was JackandJill who necroed this one.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

i am a mid 20's professional man. i am in a relation since approximately 5 years with a mid 20's professional girl, we live togather, we sleep togather enticed each other but have never had sex yet, we have tried a few times but, all that we have achieved is disappointment, so basically we both are virgins. The only place where i could get inspiration how to break the wall is through porn websites.

previously watching porn was to aquire skills to satisfy my girlfriend, but now i have not achieved the goal but have discovered online porn for self pleasures. apart from just that my girlfriend has started spying on my laptop and she keeps on checking my web browsing history. and she has been fighting with me on the above discussed reason.

of the few times i have browsed for porn i even tried to download a few videos for us to try again, but she thought, that was a self pleasure motive.

from this day onwards i will not see no porn. i love my girlfriend and i dont want her to suffer because of my deeds.

Please ppl dont watch porn

Seeing as the Threader to this post left in "2007" and won't be replying to your answers, therefore no point telling her what your thinking anymore guys, I'll reply to this poster who posted new yesterday on the subject.

Jackandjill, firstly welcome to the Forum.

I don't understand that for five years, so since obviously around 19 years of age, you and your girlfriend have been together, yet can't get intimate.

Does she fear intimacy? If you live together, then that's as good as being married and you both can't go on like this for another 5 years.

I personally think that it is good that you wanted to watch Porn to learn things to see if you could work through this, and the fact that she started snooping, means maybe she is very non-sexual, prudish, stopping you from at least finding out a bit more about sex yourself.

Your a man, as much as you love her, don't give into her every wimb and remain a Virgin for the next 5 years. Porn isn't bad, your logic was to learn but then you liked what you saw and you desire it, it's natural.

You need to find out why she will not get close to you in that way, perhaps it's an in-herited problem from childhood, her family pressuring her not to until she is married.

Do you actually know what the problem is? Also you say you have tried, but disapointment but have not explained whether you are having trouble or she is having trouble.

Sometimes, men can fear as well being a Virgin then having to perform and it doesn't happen.

Perhaps if you give a little more background that you are comfortable with, we can offer suggestions that may help you.

You both deserve to feel close to each other sexually, as well as being in love or eventually, it has to fold...

CW